every time i find a good person and wish to settle down within a week he gets into a financial mess like loss in bussiness or his health fails or some untoward incident like being bitten by a scorpion and he is fighting for his life happens. the first man had a loss in business and a tragedy in the family, the second ones mother was diagnosed with cancer the day the marriage day was fixed and the third was stung by a scorpion and was on his death bed the day he accepted the proposal. in all the cases there have been big monetary loss for me as i had to give money for their treatment as they completely loose everything they have or in situations where money is not available immediately. when money leaves my hand to help it does not come back to me. even though it is my hard earned money it just flies out of the window. i dont get the person or the money back. never believed in destiny but am confused now. please enlighten me what the cause could be.
2006-11-24 03:47:13 · 6 answers · asked by smile2u2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is just life. It if weren't for the bad times, we wouldn't enjoy the good ones as much.
It seems like you are too good and willing to give what you have to help somebody, I used to be this way also, but the truth is if you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will, and if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anybody else.
We can't just be as free with what we have as when we were
teenagers, then we had time to gain it back, now we need to hold on to what we have. I would recommend that you break the cycle of helping too much, I have the feeling you help others, not just the men in your life. If you are a person who feels the need to help others, then there are plenty of volunteer opportunities out there and it won't cost you money. But I know that sometimes we feel that love is worth any cost, but you end up losing by giving all and then having nothing left for your own needs.
Unless you are extremely wealthy, I suggest you start trying
to take care of your needs, and when that is done, be putting something aside for your own future when you need it.
2006-11-24 04:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issues. I seem to be happy then something happens and it falls apart. I have also spent all my money on medical treatment for sick people and never get it back. My ex should owe me a ton of money. He was in the hospital every month for three years for one thing or another. When his health improved he left me. He also got a huge inheritance and is in great shape money-wise.
I find that I am a "care-giver" in a relationship. Somehow I always end up being the one to take care of the other person. I suppose it is the mother in me that makes me take over and get things done.
2006-11-24 04:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The longer I stay, the extra I see that all and sundry has issues, only at distinctive circumstances & seasons. the reason being all of us stay in a fallen international! A hymn that i be attentive to is composed of ideas: Will your anchor carry interior the storms of existence, while the waves unfold their wings of strife, while the sturdy tides turn & the cables stress, will your anchor flow or enterprise proceed to be. we've an anchor that keeps the soul, steadfast & beneficial at the same time as the billows roll, fastened to the rock that won't be able to circulate, grounded enterprise & deep interior the Saviors love. Many an old sailor has sung this hymn at sea interior the midst of raging storms & it extremely is an encouraging hymn for those dealing with trials in this existence besides. carry directly to Messiah Y'shua!
2016-11-26 20:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is looking for love in all of the wrong places...they usually end up paying for it. It appears that you catch the men with the, "help me vibe". To remedy this, never let a man take advantage of you. Love will come around when you least expect it, and your mate will not mind footing his share of the bills.
2006-11-24 04:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Nut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving away your money. You are not their personal financer. They need to make arrangements with their bill collectors as to how they are going to pay their bills.
The minute someone starts to tell you about their financial woes, walk away. You already know what's on their mind. Move on, these people you have encountered are not worth dwelling about.
2006-11-24 04:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are the kind of person who likes to help and really wnats to settle down, but you are trying to settle down with all the wrong people. it sounds like all this "bad" stuff happens to you becuase you are being "protected" from complete lose of yourself. I think you should just stay away from themen and let the right one come to you, don't go looking for him or he'll never come.
2006-11-24 03:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chrystal S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋