we've been living together for 6 years. he went through a nasty divorce before me. he says he hates women. pays more attention to porn than me. his actions have been worse since i became disabled 3 yrs ago. he financially supports me. i need more respect from him.
2006-11-24 03:11:02 · 13 answers · asked by punkbun03 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he has major issues unrelated to you... but you are paying the price. You need to talk to him about this compassionately, but firmly and tell him he needs to treat you with more love and respect. You might be financially dependent on him for now, but you deserve to be treated with respect. You'll be okay if this relationship ends. Do what is right for you and be proactive... don't just sit and wait for him to figure it out. You'll only stay stuck in a bad situation.
2006-11-24 03:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your disability is, but i do know one thing
for you to do is have respect for your self and by all means
leave him if at all possible. You don't need the mind trip he's
giving you. There are groups out there to help you to move to
another residence if your willing to do so. No one deserves
the inconsiderate that he is putting out there towards you. As
the porn goes hes a sick person and can become a serious
problem as well as abusive hurtfulness. Think this over for
the soul purpose of your self. I hope you decide on what you
do will be a safe one for you. Have some one help you move
to another place and look into finding a new roomate whom
understands your disability. Good Luck.
2006-11-24 03:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by shadowtwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is how you could be in a relationship with someone like this for a day, much less six years.
That's one of the things that makes financially supporting yourself so wonderful. If you're not happy in the relationship, you can end it without being concerned about keeping a roof over your head. And, by your description of your man's behavior, it certainly doesn't sound like there is much joy there.
If he hasn't shown you the respect you need/want in six years, what's going to change things? I think you need to find a way to support yourself and move on.
2006-11-24 03:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, cultivate some sort of skill and get outta there! He doesn't respect you, saying he hates women, how long before he thinks of you as disposable? There are programs out there that will help you be on your own. You have the right to a good life so start living for yourself. You deserve so much more than him.
If you want to keep him, try doing or saying the same thing you did to get him. Try talking it out. Peace and Blessings
2006-11-24 03:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Mikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent over 16 years with a man identical to the man you described. It never got better. He, too, was into porn and slept on the sofa.
I would bet that if you talked to his ex that he treated her the same way. I have become friends with one of my exes exes and, sure enough, he has always been a jerk.
I wish I could be encouraging, but this is how my situation turned out. I gave it everything I had.
2006-11-24 04:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hates women, why does he take care of you? Out of pity? Sounds like you need to get a spine and kick him out-disabled or not-you deserve better.
2006-11-24 03:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he be with you if he hates women..
He must have atleast some feelings for you, 6 yrs is a long time :)
2006-11-24 03:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by kaykay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe counseling. That's one tough situation. He needs to change or it won't work. Good Luck.
2006-11-24 03:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are in a real tough spot..
What will you do if you lose his financial support ?
you cannot "make" him do anything, he could just throw you out.
Better make nice and try to get him to love you more...
2006-11-24 03:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he hate you i don't think he will be with u for six years. well he need prayer to change.
2006-11-24 03:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋