Do you have a short attention span for everything? I hardly ever finish a book/project or hold on to a job or?

Question

interested in something for very long. I've dozens of hobbies which I never got past being skilled at it. I'm a job hopper and I start something else without finishing something at hand.I buy and borrow books every week but never finish them. What is wrong with me????????????? It has a detrimental effect on my life that my parents think I'm a failure. I hate being this way but I can't help it.

Answer 1

I've got a salution problem! first you

Answer 2

It could be symptoms of ADD, or it could be displaced anxiety.

You could seek counseling, and ask your parents for support.

You could try to modify your diet, and start a vigorous exercise program, and you could try making a schedule for yourself (in 20 minute intervals) about what you should be doing and when.

Not all ADD requires medication. Sometimes regulated diet/exercise/scheduling can help build routines.

If it is displaced anxiety, counseling can help. Some people are chronic procrastinators, or project starters, because they feal success, or fear failure. By never finishing something, they never have to face the outcome of possible success or failure.

One thing is certain. Accomplishments build self-esteem. Each accomplishment gives momentum to your motivation to tackle the next challenge, and each success paves the way for other successes.

Taking up a hobby, sport, music lessons, or martial arts is something parents do so their kids will have a way to get good at something and build their self-esteem. It is also an outlet for stress and anxiety.

Nowadays, some kids are becoming "mouse potatoes" and computer/video game addicted. This is not good because they are not getting the proper exercise their bodies need to release endorphins, and make dopamine, seratonin, and other stress-fighting chemicals.

Try some of this stuff, and if it doesn't work for you, then seek more assistance. i promise that if/when you get a handle on this, and you find a way to manage it, you will have the greatest sense of accomplishment.

Answer 3

I used to be that way. The problem is (like I had) is a that you think that what you are meant to do will come to you one day. That if you keep trying things that one day you'll find that thing you absolutely love and your life will then be complete. This is a delusion of granduer. Doing anything correctly involves seeing it through, even when your intrest in it flanks. Anyone famous, anyone extremely skilled at something, had more times than not that they felt overwhelmed, bored or just plain sick of whatever it was they were doing. Aquiring a skill starts with an interest, but seeing it through and actually making it into something productive requires discipline. You lack discipline. Here's what changed it in my life: as I got older and realized that I boounce from thing to thing; those around me were really making strides in their respective careers/ambitions. I thought to myself that "being unfocused in my 20s is ok, but do I want to be this way through my adult life?" Others around me are getting great responsibilities in their work, gaining high salaries, some have became muscians and actors-their accomplishments are impressive for being in their late 20s. But I am nowhere. I bounced around so much that I ended up doing entry level stuff that 22 yr olds right out of college were doing. My parents were frustrated and my mates. Basically, at one point you are going to have to buckle down. Starting at the bottom and sticking it through will have to be done for you to get anywhere. Pick something grand. If you want to write start writing. Progress will be slow but that's how it is always done. There is no instantaneous solution.

Answer 4

You need to learn to focus and be patient. Unfortunately, that is not always possible. I am like that to an extent. I have lots of hobbies that I am good at, but not great. Same with my housework; I'll start something, but then get impatient or bored with it and pick up something else. The fact that you recognize that you do this is a start. Remember, being a "Tinker of all, master of none" is actually a good trait; you are well-rounded. Just concentrate on the small stuff first, such as finishing the book that you have. Once you master finishing those types of task, work on the bigger stuff, like your career. Good luck.

Answer 5

Wow, you sound exactly like me. I understand your pain. In school, I'd try to listen but then I'd go staring off into space and like 20 minutes had gone by... When people talk, I just pretend I hear what they are saying because I lose focus and start thinking of other things. I think that you, and me for that matter, might have ADD. Those sound alote like the symptons. It's not your fault though.You can always get tested for it. Ask your doctor.

Answer 6

Yes I certainly do so I have alot of empathy for you.

You can intentionally practice focusing your attention.

Maybe you need to look at your diet. Omega 3 and Omega 6 are good for the brain. (Omega 3 and 6 are found in fish, hemp seed oil, flax seeds) When your brain lacks certain vitamins and minerals it gets tired and does not perform well, just as if your body lacks the right nutrience then it gets tired...

If this is not the problem, go and see a doctor he or she may diagnose you as having Attention Deficit Disorder ( ADD.)
If you have a bunch of stressful thing in your life maybe it is that. When you are stressed out about a bunch of different things then it is hard to focus.


Some 7 million adults struggle with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). They could get relief with a morning jog.

When scientists from the Academic College of Tel Aviv in Israel questioned 37 men with ADHD about their exercise habits, they found that aerobic exercise such as jogging at least twice a week for 30 minutes helped considerably. Exercisers reported a third fewer instances of worrisome, anxious, or unwanted thoughts, and were 21 percent less likely to act impulsively.

Physical activity elevates brain chemicals that individuals with ADHD are short on, says Amitai Abramovitch, study author.

Your attention span is directly connected to how much you are interested in what you are doing. If you are bored, or not interested, attention falters, and concentration goes out the window, you fall asleep and your attention span isn't even in the running.

Increasing your memory and your observation skills is a great place to start improving your attention span. One way of doing this is by using a picture with several items in it. Look at the picture for about a minute and then look away from the picture and recall as much of the picture as you can. Try to visualize the picture in your mind and place the object where they were in the picture.

Many police officers do this exercise so that their minds are sharp when they are on the scene of a crime. That way they can immediately pick out objects that could be clues.

You should practice this exercise at least once a day to sharpen your mind. You will begin to notice details that others don't and remember more about what you have seen.

Suggestions to Help Build Attention Spans
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When concentration is needed, cut down on the number of distractions.

What causes attention deficit hyperactivity disorder?
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ADHD is one of the most researched areas in child and adolescent mental health. However, the precise cause of the disorder is still unknown.

Available evidence suggests that ADHD is genetic. It is thought to be a brain-based biological disorder. Low levels of neurotransmitters (types of brain chemicals), are thought to be related to the presence of ADHD in children (but there is no blood test for this).

Research on brain imaging using PET scanners (positron emission tomography; a form of brain imaging that makes it possible to observe the human brain at work) show that brain metabolism in children with ADHD is lower in the areas of the brain that control attention, social judgment and movement.

Top 5 Tips to Improve Your Concentration
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Answer 7

I can't say, of course, for sure...but what you're describing sounds like some symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). If it's interfering with your social, vocational life--and other areas--then you might want to seek out professional help, especially since it seems very bothersome to you. I wish you well.

Answer 8

Start on one thing and then finish it. Don't start anything else until you do.You MUST develop a sense of self discipline.

Answer 9

Well, in regards to your question, Id just like to say...................


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