When my boyfriend and i are trying to have sex, it seems like he's too big for me. the more we try to do the deed the more it seems to hurt. is there anything he and i can do to make it work better?
2006-11-24 02:58:35 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends what the actually cause of discomfort is. Lack of lubrication inside the vaginal wall could be one cause, in that case I would recommend a water-soluble lubricant such as K-Y. another cause could be that your vagina is not used to something "large" inside. It may take time to gradually get comfortable with it. Amanda, you have control over what goes into your body and how much...be safe always use condoms!
Mikey
2006-11-24 03:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! You could try some added lubrication. Or maybe you could invest in a dildo or vibrator so as to work things out on your own a lil bit. Worst case scenario is that you guys just not a good fit sexually and need to find other ways to please each other. I can say this. I had a female friend that got married and didn't discover until the night of love makin he was way to big for her and that sex was extremely painful. They ended up getting divorced within two months. I say that to say don't stay if you guys not gonna really work at it or if its to much to bare.
Concerned
2006-11-24 03:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like just the though of sex for you will make you nervous, and that makes the situation worse.
So, I recommend you have enough for-play to get yourself exited and use a warming lubricating lotion.
Also try to have sex after a warm shower.
2006-11-24 03:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by rewrite_h35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, he sounds like a whopper good enough to get the cob webs out! Ever try using a lubricant on the head of his penis before he tries to penetrate? That might help. From what I know about the female vagina, there isn't a man out there large enough not to fit into it. It stretches to bring forth babies, and it can surely accomodate a fat headed penis!
2006-11-24 03:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing to think about, is to try figure out if it's the length or the thickness that's hurting? Then try using the appropriate method mentioned on this thread.
2006-11-24 03:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Bogus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you could actually nicely be held in charge for the failings s/he says throughout the time of intercourse. there are various thoughts and thoughts in contact, and additionally you're no longer thinking rationally. If he's by no ability mentioned it to you the different time than in mattress, he would not recommend it. he's purely asserting it in mattress because of the fact he thinks it rather is what you prefer to hearken to. If it bothers you and takes you out of the 2nd, you ought to talk with him approximately it and ask him to no longer say it. i think of it is going to be the comparable if he needed to apply toddler communicate or grimy communicate and it wasn't your element. If he responds with something approximately he in basic terms says it because of the fact he feels it, then you somewhat ought to factor out the sole time he says this is in mattress.
2016-10-17 11:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try lubricant. Other than that, have sex without having sex.
2006-11-24 03:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grasp the base of his penis as he enters you. Your hand will stop him from going in too far and he will probably enjoy it just as much if you keep a firm grasp.
2006-11-24 03:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest oral sex prior to trying to make love. This will get things all heated up and would relax you both.
2006-11-24 03:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No wonder! It would work far much better if you were doing it with your husband and not your boyfriend. He's just using you!
2006-11-24 03:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋