Dr Phil do people will realize that if they have the right to discipline their kids the violence will go a?

Answer 1

i'm willing to bet that abraham lincoln, george washington, martin luther king, and many others were spanked as children, and they certainly didn't go bad from it, now did they?

spanking is not about violently reacting to disobediance, or whatever. spanking is about consequences. my parents always made a point of never spanking out of anger, because it sends the wrong message. but if you tell a child " if you aren't going to listen to me, you're going to get a spank" and then they continue to disobey, spanking them wouldn't be so much a punishment, as a consequence.

after spanking a child, it's always important to give the child a hug and tell them that you love them. my parents alsways said "we love you too much to let you get away with this." this helps the child make sure that they are still a good person, they just did something wrong, and that they're parents will always love them no matter what.

contrary to what the person above me thinks, children DO have a conscience, and they DO know that they're not supposed to sneak that last cookie.

btw discipline is not synonomous for spanking, maybe that's why so many kids are messed up these days...

Answer 2

What is the point of teaching your children that violence of any sort, is the answer?

When parents react violently to their kids, they are teaching their kids what buttons to push to cause them to lose their composure. Then they learn that when something causes them to lose their composure, violence is the acceptable way to deal with it.

If those parents were to hit another adult the way they hit their kids, they would end up in jail for assult.

Parents just ned to learn that you can change a person's behavior by changing your own. When you change your behavior, people respond differently.

Also, if you show others respect (Yes, even kids deserve respect) then they learn to respect you.

Children are born ungrateful, disrespectful, impatient, unappreciative, and without a conscience. It is the job of the parents to model that for their children and teach them how to be. They're not naturally BORN with these traits, you have to teach it to them. They are blank slates.

And it's important to remember, as their brains grow, and they begin to have more advanced processing, they are blindly trying to find the limits of acceptability. They are testing the boundaries. Parents owe it to them to be consistant, and to teach them the value of patience and restraint.

So if you believe it is right and correct to beat your kids when they mess up, then that's what you believe. Could that be because that's what YOU were taught?

And thus continues, the legacy of abuse.