2006-11-24 02:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, this is a tough one. It's so tied to how much you trust that person, isn't it? I mean, if you feel the person is taking away time from you, and you can go in the room with them, put your arms around them and say, "Honey, I'm lonesome for you---won't you come and have a cup of coffe with me in the den?", then that's probably OK. But if the person is neglecting you in favor of IM, or if they get up in the night and get on the computer....then WATCH OUT. Something's going on there, at least an addiction of some kind. I believe that you should at the very least tell your spouse that it makes you feel neglected, and insecure. If he/she doesn't change the behavior after that, there's trouble brewing and you need to take some serious action---like telling them that you consider this addictice behavior that has the potential to ruin your relationship---and it very well COULD.
2006-11-24 02:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, my husband does not chat on the internet. We both agree that is some sick stuff.
In my opinion, if a married individual is chatting with someone from the opposite sex that is considered cheating.
Just my two cents worth.
Good luck!
2006-11-24 10:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband spent a great majority of his time chatting online until I explained to him that although I understand he has friends (male and female) online that I'd prefer he discuss things with me and not them. Although he still chats online, it is about 90% less now than before and he says he does this out of respect for me and for our relationship. And when he does talk online, I'm sitting right beside him so I see every word typed out by him.
2006-11-24 10:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The thing about cheating is that it is more detrimental when it's mental rather than physical. Chatting is a form of this mental stimulation. If a married couple doesn't have enough to talk about or do together they shouldn't have gotten married.
2006-11-24 10:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer_weisz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He used to chat while playing games, it never bothered me until the day he responded to a fellow player instead of answering me. He's not chatting while playing anymore. I told him I don't care if he chats but its a problem if he'd rather chat then tlk to his flesh and blood partner. He decided it was best if he stopped chatting.
2006-11-24 11:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, my boyfriend pays attention to me so I don't have this problem but a friend just found out his wife was cheating on him with some guy on the Internet and that all that time on the computer and text messaging back and forth was just a symptom of her cheating.
So confront them about it before, you, too, find out the hard way!
2006-11-24 10:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
he use to and it made me feel like he was setting himself and me up for a breakup. why would i be comfortable about him talking to another chick on the net if i am not comfortable about it in person? marriage is a team thing so i believe.
2006-11-24 10:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wish my hubby would. i have even set up his profile and 360. but he gets nervous about typing an spelling
2006-11-24 10:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL! I'm not married, so I can't properly answer your question. Sorry.
2006-11-24 10:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a wife
2006-11-24 10:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋