2 and a half weeks ago i had an abortion, what happen right i feel pregnant to a drunk abusive guy...anyway so i booked myself in for an abortion because i didnt want to have a kid to him. cause a kid needs a dad and i dont think he should have kids the way he is..i had it and told my best friend last night and he said he would of been the dad...now i am hiding because the guy wants to get me for having an abortion i told the cops and they said all they could do was warn him he wont stop until he hurts me..scared of how far he will go...but i am not sure i did the right thing i am against abortion, but i had one and now i feel really ashamed...did i do the right thing?
2006-11-24 02:23:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he sounds like a psycho...
I am not one to say "yes" or "no" to the whole abortion thing because I have been fortunate where I haven't had to make a decision in dire circumstances like that. You made the best choice for yourself at that time. You shouldn't feel guilty. Just get the heck away from this guy.
2006-11-24 02:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The right thing varies depending on the situation. I'm pro-life but I think you did what you felt was right at the time. Most of our actions have consequenses and your guilt is on of the effects of abortion that nobody talks abut publicly.
Look at it this way,m there is no guarantee that you would have delivered a full term maybe, maybe you would have miscarried, maybe you could have had a still born baby and besides whats done is already done. You did what you felt you had to do. But if this guy is so terrible what were/are you doing with him in the 1st place?
Try to seek counselling from a support group or a pasor or if you can afford a psychiatrist who can help with the guilt before it becomes depression. You will have to live an abortion it cannot be undone just find the strenght to seek hep to move on.
Be careful & protect yourself fom this guy. All the best.
2006-11-24 02:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking I feel you did the right thing. Having a baby with an abusive person is just setting yourself up for even more pain. I am completely against abortions but I have to tell you that is probably the best thing you did. Look at your situation. If this guy is like this now imagine what he would be like to you during your pregnancy. Then once the baby is born how would he be towards the child. The have been a lot of guys in the news lately that have been accused for killing a new born for crying. As for him. Go now and get a restraining order. This is just a piece of paper but it will get him arrested if he comes to you.
2006-11-24 02:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by esanju20022002 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh but if you didn't want to have a baby by this man you should have not slept with him. Now if he raped you that's a whole different story. But I think that you did the wrong thing by having an abortion. It is legal by it is also immoral. Did your mother kill you? Obviously not. I am so sick of people using abortion as a solution to the problem. Most women get themselves into these situations anyway. GOD blessed you and gave you the opportunity to give life and he doesn't make mistakes. I have seen many women do this and later in life when they want to have kids they are unable to. Everyone makes mistakes and God will forgive you, just please don't do it again.
2006-11-24 03:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's part of the abortion process that they will never tell you about. But you can learn to forgive yourself. Find a church in your area and get a name and phone number of a good crisis pregnancy center . They will do free counseling and help you get through this. As far as your boyfriend goes, make sure you call the police whenever he threatens you, in person or over the phone. Don't worry. You'll get through this.
2006-11-24 02:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Papa John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you feel is right. abortion is such a controvircial topic, but it is still legal. it is very normal to feel guilty. contact the place that did the abortion and let them know that you need counseling, you are feeling mixed emotions. and they should help you. good luck, and i am sorry for your troubles.
2006-11-24 02:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...that's heavy...ok you need to go to a judge at the county courthouse and get a temporary restraining order against him to start...that will more than likely back him off of you coz it will show him you mean business...then you need to get yourself in some counciling...
2006-11-24 02:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't know, I'm against abortion, but I don't know what I would have done in that situation.
2006-11-24 02:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your story is true,you did the right thing.ITS YOUR BODY AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE.
Dont fell bad-you made a good decision.
2006-11-24 02:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Murders go to hell
2006-11-24 02:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Hardtimes 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋