Who suffers worse in a divorce, parents or grown children torn between both mom and dad?

Answer 1

NO ONE gains in a divorce, the family is seperated, and strength is in the family,hope is in the family,and love is in the family,when it is torn apart , no one gains, I don`t care what anyone tells you, Divorce is not the answer, how can a child, trust a parent, to be there for them, and to always love them, if the parents were not there for eachother, we take VOWS, to promise to be there for the spouse,for better or for worse,richer,or porer,in sicknes,and in health, till DEATH, not untill we fall out of LUST, but till that person is no longer living, what kind of signal are we giving our kids, if we divorce because we say we no longer care for this person? PWOPLE do not see that this is the reason, that so many young people today are stressed out, their insides are torn apart, they do not trust anyone, they feel as though they have no one they can count on. ALL INVOLVED IN DIVORCE ARE HURT IN THE END.

Answer 2

That is a loaded question and it all depends on how mature the parents are. Do the parents TRY to make the children take sides? Do they bad-mouth the other parent to the child or in front of the child? Do they place total blame on the other parent for the cause of the divorce? If all of these things can be avoided at all costs, to remember that the children now should be the main focus, then I think the kids will end up being alright in the long run. Of course they will have to grieve the end of the two-parent family. But once they realize that life without the constant stress of two parents who do not love eachother anymore and can no longer live peacefully together, they will be ok.

Answer 3

I think that both parents and children suffer at one point or another. But the children really go through alot more. They now have to divide their love, and adjust to alot of changes.
Eventually they may have to get used to step parents. The children no longer feel like children, but little adults. They grow up faster than they should. Some times they rebel against their parents to punish them.

I feel it is really important for the parents to get along, even if they are getting a divorce. Don't let the children suffer for your mistakes. Work out a plan together, parents and kids.
Show them that you love the kids and will be there for them. Don't just say it. But make sure there is still discipline. Both parents must agree on this. So that the kids don't try to make you fight. These suggestions can help to lesson the stress of all.
Eventually the kids will have to work things out with both parents. Many family's are going through this today, {sadly}.

Answer 4

Children of any age should never feel torn between their parents. It's the parents that make the children feel torn by causing unnecessary undo when the child or adult wants to spend time with the other parent. All parents should realize that if you are a good parent to your child, there is nothing anyone can say or do to make the child change the way they feel about you. They will always love you and because they want to spend time with their mother or father, that isn't any reason to feel jealous. Be glad that your child grown or otherwise has the support of two parents.

Answer 5

It depends on why the parents got a divorce as to how it effects anybody.

If there is abuse going on, then it only hurts the one that was doing the abusing. The kids and the abused spouse feel a lot better about their selves once they are out of it.

If there is cheating going on, then the kids are hurt by the parent that was cheating plus the spouse that was cheated is hurt as well. And the cheater is hurt cause THEY got caught and lost it all.

Then there is the ones that get divorced just because they fell out of love, being it be either of the two or both. When this happens the kids do suffer and are hurt cause they just don't understand it no matter how old or young they are. It is hard on both parents as well.

Answer 6

i would say the children.
well,for grown children,they would probably ask theirselves or their parents why and how divorce must be made,they would feel really bad with themselves and ask what went wrong.
for young children,they would ask the same questions when they grow old.but it would be hard and really sad for them to grow without a parent or two.
it would take a matter of time though for the young ones to get hurt but they would be hurt the most.

parents would have a hard time thinking of divorce because of the children and how much love they had with the husband or wife they love.
i believe all of them will always suffer emotional problems due to divorce of the parents,children or parent,unless they would be a family again.

but what happens,happens.God has a plan for each of us. probably a divorce must be made to avoid more conflict and hurt feelings.we must look on the bright side.

bottomline is,there should have been no divorce.
a person must think hard on marriage and think very hard on saying yes or no so that divorce must not be made and to avoid for feelings to get hurt.
but,God has a plan for everything.

Answer 7

I would say definately the children, no matter what the age because they didn't have a choice in the decision and they just have to learn to handle it. There should be no reason to be torn between the two though. You love them both and u need to treat them as individual people. The parents need to be adults and not put their kids in the middle of any disputes. You shouldn't have to choose who comes to your wedding, grad etc. You should be able to have both parents there and know that they are mature enough to handle these situations for u. If they try to put u in the middle just tell them that u know they have their issues with each other but u love them both and u don't want to be put in the middle.

Answer 8

Parents.

Answer 9

I would say both suffer an equal amount, just in different ways. The children dont want to let their parents down by not living or being with one of them and the parents just want to keep their children happy and remember, they had to make the decision with their kids' feelings in mind.

Answer 10

Everyone has choices to make. Grown children are more than capable of standing up for themselves. It's when we all become enablers that problems persist. If more people would set the boundries and stick to them, there would be less "issues" and soap opera story lines.