We have been divorced for 10 years we have two sons, 15 and 11. He has had very little involvement throughout their years. He lives two states away and has never visited them. He would go for months without even calling them and wouldn't even send cards for their b-days. Two years ago, he started calling our oldest son and persuaded him to come and live with him. Since our youngest son said he would never want to live him, he cut off all contact. I even tried to convince my ex that he needed to start calling his son and he said it wasn't his responsibility.
Since then my son has called him once to invite him to his 5th grade graduation, he said he couldn't make it, but would send him some cash. It never came! Just another big let down for my son.
My son is very upset over his father and is having a hard time. But the other night his dad called him out of the blue and acted as if nothing had ever happened. How do I help my son with this deal with this situation?
2006-11-24 02:01:24 · 5 answers · asked by stacey h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to make sure he realizes that first, he has you that really cares about him and that you will always be there. Try to be more invlolved with your sons, and try to talk to your ex. If he still doesnt realize what he has done, just cut off all communication, because it will only end in heartbreak for your sons. GL, godbless, and I hop ehtis helps!
2006-11-24 02:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by cul8rhote 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to continue to expect the let downs my son is 19 and his sister is 18 he got invited to her graduation and didnt come he has been a constant let since he showed back up after being mia for 13 years
2006-11-24 02:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt about it. Divorce sucks. But after the inital pain subsides in 12 to 18 months the father should act like a father and take care of his sons/daughters. Otherwise, he is scum.
2006-11-24 02:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by neutral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 00:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex is pyscho. Tell your son you're there for him and always will be and leave it at that. Your ex's true colors will be more and more exposed as your son gets older. Just hope he sees his father for what he really is.
2006-11-24 02:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋