my husbands exwife who he has a young child with is making my life a living hell.she hates the fact that i married her husband and has a great relationship with her son.she bad mouths me to my inlaws to start trouble,does not allow me to have any contact with the school or the sons friends.i'm not allowed to watch "ken" when my husbands not home.i have never given her a reason to not trust me or said anything bad about her in front of ken.the worst part is my husband will not stand up for me and allows her to do this.he said he can't control what she does which is true but he is constantly helping her out like giving her extra money,watching ken when its not his day so she can go out and the list goes on.this upsets me the most when my husband accomidates her when he does not have to.i understand he wants to keep peace for kens sake but should his ex wife have so much control over our lives and say and do whatever she wants and my husband just ignores it?should i just let it go?
2006-11-24 01:57:39 · 8 answers · asked by marymackey08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like ex-wife is very vindictive, and he is well aware of her wrath, He is afraid that he'll lose his son if he confronts her, so he puts up with her sh!t, eventually he will crack, because he's tiring to keep peace, It's not you, she would do this to anyone, you need to develop a thick shin and fast if you want to help him. she is dangling his son over your heads, unfortunately the child will suffer over this. I really feel sad for all of you, maybe some one out here can give you some GOOD advice. At least you know why she is the ex-wife!
2006-11-24 02:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The really big question you should be asking is who does he really love? he is caught between two women. Trust me not a great place to be. I know.
Ask your self....why did he divorce her and marry you? If there were good and valid reasons.....not something he did that caused her to divorce him. You are okay.
Depending on how long they were married you may look like the outsider to that family. They had a family and you came along and took it away. True or not that is how you are perceived......even if subconsciously.
So the real answer should be from your husband. Don't look for him to shut her out. She is the mother of his child. Ask of him that you come first in his mind and you will be fine. Just remember no matter what the reason for the divorce she may never except you. Give your husband a chance to prove to you he loves you not her. What else could count.
2006-11-24 02:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This stinks for each individual in touch. It feels like your husband is only attempting to maintain the peace yet I understand why you're disillusioned. are you able to attempt to talk on your husband approximately your thoughts and doubtless set some floor regulations? The ex-spouse is probable only harm and needs to harm your husband. i'm no longer saying it extremely is right yet possibly only think of related to the form you may experience in case you have been in her footwear. Then from right here possibly you are able to think of of a few issues which you would be prepared to enable her have her way approximately and then use that as a bartering device inclusive of your husband. tell him look i'm prepared to enable her proceed to do A, B and C yet i won't be able to tolerate D, E and F. in case you do it this style then he's usual with you are trying to do the final you are able to to make this undesirable subject a sprint extra suitable yet he will additionally understand which you're actually not prepared to take a seat down back and enable her walk throughout you. stable success with each little thing.
2016-11-26 19:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lifetime of stress and discontent ahead of you. He is never going to say anything to her about this foolishness. He is probably still sleeping with her too. Just pack your things and leave, don't forget to stop at the courthouse to file for divorce. Let he and his ex wife hold hands and be together. I hope you don't have any kids with this person, clean breaks are always better. Don't look back, cut your losses and move on.
2006-11-24 03:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to deal with that if you are gonna stay married to him and as far as the money issue goes if he is paying child support tell him if she is having a problem with you if they go to court she gonna play crazy to the judge and take him to the cleaners. But he needs to get it straight with his exwife that she needs to respect you it is not your fault that they arent together and he is your husband now not hers he needs to act like it.
2006-11-24 02:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to get a divorce and be more
careful in your next choice of husbands..
2006-11-24 02:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always two sides to a story. tell us the other side.
2006-11-24 02:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times do you have to ask this F'n question? enough already. She's a BEEEAATCH. we get it already.
2006-11-24 02:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋