Sex drive ??

Question

i seem to have lost my sex drive since splitting up with my naw ex girlfriend...!!? this was 3 months ago, it was a hard break up and caused a lot of strees on my side... (4 year relationship) since i have started seeing this new gal, im concerned if the relationship carrys on progressing (wink wink) there will be a problem..!

i dunno if im stressed over the ex..? anxoius because of the new gal..??

i have been smoking more lately is this a factor, i did start a exercise regime, but have dropped of this last couple of weeks..

What can i do...?? healthly (is that a word ?!?) and quickly

Im in my early 20's,

ohh no drugs lol..

thanks in advance..

I started swimmin twice a week.. but havn't gone for 2 weeks..

problem is im meeting her tomorrow, now am stressed lol...

i have been drinking a lot more lately, i will probably be out on the beer with her on saturday...

Answer 1

Eat a lot of aphrodisiac food like oysters.

Answer 2

Smoking is a factor as can be alcohol but at your age I don't think a physical problem is likely. Maybe a psychological emotional problem due to an attachment to your ex.

I am not a psychologist so I suggest getting into physical exercise like small weights frequently, a routine several times a week. This will get your blood flowing along with taking your mind off your ex. Yeah and eat healthily like the above answerer said, oysters may be expensive but there are plenty of other foods high in vitamin E. Make sure you get your other vitamins too though.

When you do get into a romantic situation don't rush in, take your time, most chicks like it when you mess around with them for a while first anyway

good luck

Answer 3

Hey, Me--
Stress and breakups can always cause some physical side-effects. Your temporary loss of sex-drive is probably more an emotional than a physical problem, though. You've been badly hurt, and you're probably very cautious about what happens with a new relationship.
As you get older, you'll likely find that your interest in sex depends more on who you're with and the circumstances you find yourself in rather than the old, "hey, I'm horny" automatic reaction that happens whether you're with someone or not.
Give yourself some time for your hurting to heal itself--there are lots of ways to be close with a new friend besides having sex. Girls really appreciate someone who likes a sweet kiss and cuddle and emotional closeness instead of jumping into bed at any opportunity. Get to know your new girlfriend well enough to know whether or not you want to move on to another level, then see what happens. If the time and the relationship is right, you will be too.

Answer 4

1. Stress-
Especially related to work or relationships can cause this
2. Exercise can help the stress, especially any aerobic exercise
3. Anaerobic exercise such as weightlifting can exacerbate the problem.
4. reduce or stop alcohol intake
Alcohol or drugs exacerbate the problem
Especially antidepressant medication
5. Eat healthy but also avoid excessive carbohydrates including potatoes, pasta, rice and bread and excessive sugar, these feed the stress symptoms.
6. Ensure you get proper sleep!

If you cannot control the stress see a family physician for a referral to a Clinical Psychologist

Answer 5

Dude, I have been there. You are overstressed. Try to smoke a little less, I think it raises blood pressure. Also, lay off the alcohol, it lessens your ability to keep it up. Exercising is good. For now, avoid junk food and eat healthier foods to give you a boost. Take some time to unwind, get some r and r.

Answer 6

problem is......you are afraid you will become a failure. don't judge your proformance by your past relationship. Smoking actually lowers your drive!! Quit smoking, get to know next person with out stressing out over former girl!!!! I had same problem---------------except the smoking. My new spouse is a loving person now.

Answer 7

You are suffering from temporary impotence............see the penis does not have a brain or a heart and your brain and heart are not ready to be deciding where your penis will go and what it will be doing and when.

The rest of you needs to heal from your break up, sorry but it looks as though you have more work to do on your feelings before you penis will be willing to feel or respond.

Answer 8

Start enjoying the relationship. At twenty as you progress, when you reach that stage, you will find that things will take care of themselves.

Answer 9

Stop smoking.

Answer 10

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, just let it happen and it will