My best friend and I had a HUGEEEE fight.........it was horrible nd I had decided to break the friendship up bcuz she went too far.....all my other frnds and brother advise me to drop contact and study cuz its my most important academic yr. So I ignored her today and for some reason I feel broken.......I even fell ill during the fight but she was insensitive enough to continue fighting. I want to take their advice but I dont know how to forget 5 yrs of friendship.....help me plz.....i need to forget bout her but dont know how!!!
2006-11-24 01:15:19 · 15 answers · asked by Aitannaa ツ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is normal to feel uncomfortable after you went through an emotional conflict with anyone, much more your bestfriend. I don't know what caused the conflict but the cause can help you decide whether or not you will make it up with her or totally break off 5 years of friendship.
With the tone of your question, it must have been an unforgivable cause since you have decided to forget about her. Let me tell you this. I don't think you will forget about her but i think in time you will learn to forget about painful memories and from there you can move on. But for now, i guess you will have to undergo this painful phase. And for sure, your bestfriend is going through the same. If talking to each other as adults and finding resolution to this conflict together is not possible, I guess what you can do to help ease this pain is just to try to avoid each other as much as you can. Seeing each other less would help a lot in your recovery.
2006-11-24 01:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really had a real friendship with this girl for five years it will be extremely difficult to break the relationship. For some people it will be in fact impossible. If you are going to see her still continually I would not break the relationship, but would try to repair it and maintain it. To try to forget a friend seriously is just impossible.
2006-11-24 09:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by xingfiter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show you are the better person apologise to her and tell her how you feel see what her reaction is to what you have to say. if she is not interested then she can not be a true mate anyway as a true mate will go throw the good times and the bad times along side you that is what they are for. There for ignore her pick your self up and carry on at least you now that you give it a second shot. hope this helps you with your dilemma.
2006-11-24 09:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to her about what happened. If she still seems insensitive about it then she was not a true friend in the first place.
Remember, A good friend would bail you out of jail, but a true friend would be sitting next to you saying "man that was fun"...
Good luck.
2006-11-24 09:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by derrickroe2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its difficult bcoz my friend broke up with me after 14yrs not after a fight but she is not talking to me but life moves on and on
first u try to solve the problem but only for 2 times and if there is no response then its over just remember the sweet memories and concentrate on your studies as it will make ur family happy and they r more important then ur friend
2006-11-24 09:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother is right... as hard as it is, focus on your studies for now and when your studies are over, you can go back to sorting this out. I think that way it also gives you both a chance to think things through and maybe she will realise she was wrong and appologise! all the best
2006-11-24 09:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't quite agree with ur bro n other frnds....u can't conc. on studies when ur mind has all sort of worries,, u know ur frnd must be feeling the same. if u don't wanna face her.
send her a e-card or send her a card saying that u'd love to b buddies again....n then talk to her....m sure she'll agree.
go ahead......make ue life gr8!!
2006-11-24 14:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by ur buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a fight doesnt mean that yah r/ship is over maybe you should settle that by just ironing out the diff in you and her.thats your bros and friend's advice you shouldnt take it as a decision
2006-11-24 09:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by bretonbeticulous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how much what she said or did upset you.i dont know how far she went but havent you said or done things you regret? dont listen to other people on this one if you think her friendship is worth keeping go for it ,but id make sure she knew how bad she had made me feel.
2006-11-24 09:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by smiler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't forget about her. she is your BEST friend. no matter how many fights you get in, you will always be there for eachother. just sit down and have a long, calm talk with her. i am sure it will be ok.
2006-11-24 09:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by hotchick456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋