am i falling in love with the priest?is it a sin?

Question

I have had a 6year realationship then and my boyfriend left me with a much more younger girl and i felt so depressed. and ive tried everything to really fight the depression and i always pray that i will be okay.and everyday i am hearing mass in a nearby church. it just so happen that the words of god really hit me all the time till one day i noticed that everytime the priests gives his homily, it makes me smile and evn llaugh and somehow it really made me feel good.and then one day i started to like the assigned priest in that church and sometimes if he is off i felt a little bit sad.well he inspires me really.And its been 2months now but still i feel bad about the break up.. so i always wish that everyday i see that priest because he gives me joy in my heart and somehow he alleviates the pain and that im hoping soon ill be fine and forget about my ex..

Answer 1

I assume u r Catholic, and to answer the second part of ur question first yes it is a sin to look at ur priest in any other way that ur spiritual adviser. He is a man of God and for u to think of him in any other way it is a sin and u should run to confession preferably with another priest for repentance and absolution.
Now as for him making u feel good it is not him making u feel good but the message Jesus is sending u through him. Look at it that it is God and his Holy son who r making u forget or ease the pain of ur recent break up. Ur ex may have not been the best thing for u and God saw this and put this priest in ur life to bring u this message that all will be fine and u will be able to move on. Continue to go to mass to hear this priest message it seems u have a direct connection with God that u r overlooking with mixed feelings of adoration. That's the adversary trying to confuse u but in Jesus' holy name rebuke him and all his tricks. Amen.

Answer 2

Thumbs up for Dawn! It's not falling in love that is a sin! Now a days it happens more and more often that Muslims marry out of love too, they meet people of the other sex in university, at work, on line etc. A bond can be formed than, emotions is something you cannot control! What is a sin though, if they would date together and have sexual relations. The right thing to do Islamically is for the boy to have one of his familymembers go to the girls Wali (gaurdian, most of the times her father)and ask for her hand in marriage. He will look into the boys family, his background and so on. If he thinks the boy will make a good husband for his daughter, he will accept. If it is accepted, they can get married. Even than though, dating with just the 2 of them would not be in order. I know and heared of dates with chaperones, so the 2 can get to spend more time together, because they are bound by the promise of marriage already. But the concept that Dawn explained so well of marriage out of a sexual bond only will not happen. I think that's a good thing! Being a converted Muslim i've experienced both sides of the medal. My first marriage was with a man i hardly really knew. I was taken in by his good looks, his charms, and yes..... the great physical attraction between us, but did not know him that well (he was a non practising Muslim btw). I married him for all the wrong reasons. My future husband i met online 2 years ago. We both were not looking for a partner. We started out as friends and along the way the feelings starte to change into something deeper. I had not even seen a picture of him when my feelings started to change (and he not of me) but i fell in love with his mind, his character, the fact that we shared the same sense of humor. When we finally admitted to each other what we felt, we both knew we made a comitment to each other. When he will come see me (hopefully that will be soon) we will get married as soon as possible, in the Islamic way. The feelings i have for him are so much deeper and different than what i felt for my first husband. There is no comparrison really. Just my 2 cents Orita! Peace, Tiffy @ Mintee: your story made my heart go all warm! Inshallah Allah will always shower your marriage with happiness

Answer 3

Sounds like a harmless crush to me. Enjoy it for a little while, and then find a real relationship.

Crushes are like a marathon runner running in place for a minute to get a drink of water. You don't stop there, because you'd never finish the race, but it's a place to take a breather.

Now get running!

Answer 4

Its never a sin to fall in love. But you could jeopardize the priest's standing in the community and in his calling. And, you may bring the community's wrath on yourself as well.
Ask yourself, Have I been through this breakup bbefore? If the answer is yes, then how can you stop this feeling towards the priest. It all depends on your morals. What are they?

Answer 5

say 10 Hail Marys and 10 Our Fathers.....


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everyone gets where they think they 'love' someone but it's just one aspect about that person that they like, something they feel like they are missing. Once you step away from the situation you'll notice this.

Answer 6

liking someone isnt a sin. but if you think lusful thoughts about him then you have a problem. if you like him and you know for a fact that he's not married or in a relationship, go for it ask if he wants to have coffee or breakfast.

Answer 7

It's not a sin for you to love him, but it is for him a sin to love you?

Answer 8

your just human to feel something to onother human being but it will became a sin if you will seduce him that will enable him to sin in his vow.

Answer 9

i think loving people is not a sin...