my boyfriend seems to think that i am unable to go anywhere on my own like i need someone to walk me to my lectures and like i need someone with me constantly because if im not with him he has gone so far as to make sure that my mates don't leave me alone there is only so much i can take should i dump him and why is he doing it
2006-11-24 01:05:02 · 22 answers · asked by sarah e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't trust you - are you a tart by nature ? x
2006-11-24 01:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very controlling, insecure, jealous guy. You need to put a stop to this immediatly. This type of relationship never works. Sit him down and explain that if he can't trust u, then there is a problem. This is the type of guy that will eventually have u lose all your friends, distant yourself from your family and be totally under his control. Don't allow anyone to take away your natural freedom to be your own person. Stand up to him now and if he can't or won't change then yes u need to move on for sure. Good luck with this. I wish u the best.
2006-11-24 09:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously very insecure and feels the need to be with u 24/7. has he been hurt in the past? he may be doing it because he thinks u want him to? have u spoken to him about it? tell him u appriciate him walking u to lectures but u r feeling suffocated by him,if he doesnt understand then call it a day.
2006-11-24 09:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either is very insecure does not want to lose you and cannot trust you hence you cant be left alone or he loves you so much he is afraid some harm will come to you either way hun he needs to stop this immediately have a chat with him if it persists move on
good luck
2006-11-24 09:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most likely reason that he is doing it is that he feels insecure.
You may need gently to tell your mates that you need your own space. If they are genuine friends they will respect that.
If your boyfriend objects to that then whether you should drop him may well prove academic. If not, it will at least give you the opening to discuss it with him. If so, be rational and do not lose your temper with him.
2006-11-24 11:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's jealous and is worried that if he's not with you,then you'll go off with someone else.the best person to ask about this is your boyfriend.dumping him sounds a bit drastic at the moment,but if it turns out that he's really that insecure,then try to find out why he's like that.it might be because he's been cheated on in the past.if he can't learn to trust you,then it might be for the best that you dump him,as you need trust in relationships for them to work properly.
2006-11-24 09:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by mike w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there s nothing in this world u cant fix if u sit down n talk. So i thk it s important for u to tell him what u feel n explain nicely to him hw difficult it is to u.
If he s nice guy he will listen to u n try to change but if he s not ready to listen n thk he s the one right then its up to u to decide whether you want to SHARE your life with some one like that
Having said that I always thk separation must be the LASTsolution.
Gud luck!
2006-11-24 10:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by marke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he had some bad history. Try to talk to him and ask him abt his past. If something bad happens we tend to become insecure. Tread softly and talk to him cos in a relationship communication is the most imp thing. Once he tells u his fears help him out.
2006-11-24 09:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by garfield 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit him down n tell him your concerns, he may slack off a little but if he starts up again or doesnt change at all run for the hills chuck, the mans a nutter. some of us are just too possesive to be true and they arent ther type you want to be dating
2006-11-24 10:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Andy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a control thing. He doesn't want you to be doing anything he's not involved in. Explain to him how it makes you feel. If he can't stop himself dump him. He'll only get worse.
2006-11-24 09:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys do these things to girls because they want the girls to be highly dependent on them. So highly dependent, they want the girls to eventually feel that they [the guys] are constantly needed, so it would be harder for the girls to live without the guy.
This is unhealthy, relationships should not stifle your growth as a person.
Remember love does not equal to dependency.
2006-11-24 09:09:49 · answer #11 · answered by WomanOnTop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋