do you think its healthy to change yourself for your partner?

Answer 1

Unconditional love exists only in fairy tales. A relationship that is going to last will be filled with comprimise and agreements.

Is it healthy to change yourself for your partner? It depends upon to waht degree. People are constantly changing. The you you are now is not the you you will be in a year or two. Are the changes your partner wants you to make positive changes? are the changes easily made?

Good example is sleeping patterns. some people require more sleep than others. If your partner needs 5 hours sleep and you are a person who needs 9, well you certainly can't learn to live on 5 hours sleep and it is not likely he can learn to sleep 4 extra hours a day. Changes to your very basic being can't be made.

But is you like opera and he like wrestling you can both develope a bit of understanding for the others interest and if not lern to share it a bit learn to be tolerant and accepting.

If you are a smoker and your partner wants you to quit. Well that is a change that is in your best interest.

And somethings will change over the years anyway. The interests and life style of a person who is 20 are totally different than those of person who is 30. It may be the changes will take place eventually any way.

Stop and think about it. We all change for our mates to some degree. The changes have to be looked at on a case by case basis.

Answer 2

If you find that you want to change, do it for yourself, not anyone else. What I'm talking about is if the partner says something like " i wish you wouldn't/would " and you try to go out of your way to accommodate their wishes.

On the other hand, having a partner is your life is such a big event that one cannot help but change.

Answer 3

Depends if they are healthy changes. I mean if you quit smoking for your partner, that would be a healthy change. If you are making a major over-haul of your existence....then, the answer would be "no". If you are losing your identity because of their insistence, then you will be miserable. What kind of changes are you talking about? Ask another question but be more specific.

Answer 4

Only to a certain extent, or only in certain ways. Working out to make yourself more attractive to your partner will definitely have clear health benefits for you. But I would not, for example, have a boob job for him. Nor should you do anything that goes against your basic nature to the point where it makes you uncomfortable. Coloring your hair for him may be fun. But don't, for example, become totally submissive to him if you're naturally independent-minded. Remember- being happy is the most attractive thing anyone can do for his/her significant other.

Answer 5

I would say no. If you are with someone and that person chose to be with you then they chose you the way you are WHY change. A relationship will never work if you go into a relationship thinking "oh that bothers me but I'll make them change later". If you love me love me for me I will change when I'm good and ready. That is the mentality that everyone should have.

Answer 6

No, unless what you are changing is a bad habit that you need to change for YOURSELF in the first place. Don't change who you are for anybody.

Answer 7

No, you should be yourself otherwise you will begin to resent the person who you made the changes for.

Answer 8

No one should not be expected to change, and one should not want to change another in a relationship. Unless one is doing something that is unhealthy and putting them selves into danger. God bless****

Answer 9

Its not healthy to change yourself for anyone except for yourself! But, there is no harm in making mutual changes to please each other..

Answer 10

We all change throughout life but let it happen naturally. Changing for someone else will backfire when you realize it's not what you wanted!