I am getting married next month. It is like an arranged marriage. We know each other for 3 months & are now in a long-distance r'ship. She tells me she likes for who I am & she tells she wants to be with me, but she doesn't tell she loves me. She said the love will probably come gradually after marriage, but at present time she does not love me. however, she does say she cares about me. also she tells me that she doesn't mind me having girlfriends now or probably after marriage b'coz she wants me to be happy. she's agreed to take care for me forever & that she will always be there for me. however, she also tells me that she is marrying me coz her family is saying to do so, but then she also says it is her choice that she is marrying me. She says she had no intentions of marrying now & that I came as a surprise.
do u think she will love me after marriage? she says she will try her best to a good wife to me & to see that I am happy but she is not confident of herself.
2006-11-24 00:25:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, she will love you as long you love her whole-hearted and be sincere & faithful to her. However, time will proof everything if she really decided to spend her rest of her life together with you.
2006-11-24 00:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is tough! I know different cultures have arranged marriages. But how can anyone be happy with that concept. That must be really hard on the both of you. Talk to your families and see what advice they offer. You mentioned that it is "like" an arranged marriage, you didn't actually say it was, so maybe you can talk to them about another recourse of action.
2006-11-24 08:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who knows what the future holds?
Even in the best of relationships we can not foretell the future.
If you are both committed to making an arranged marriage work, then I guess that is all you can hope for. Anything more is a shot in the dark.
Good luck!
2006-11-24 08:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel so sorry for her, you better be a good husband to her and maybe eventually she will fall in love with you. don't cheat on her even if she said its ok for you to do so, she's just telling you that to make you happy, but in reality it won't make HER happy.
I wish the the both of you the best, and I truly hope that everything will work out for the better.
2006-11-24 09:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it works, I worked with a lady that had an arranged marriage about 2 years ago, she is now expecting!!!! She is happy. Soo, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't!!!! Good Luck.
2006-11-24 08:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give it time after the wedding she will eventually love you by the way you treat her so u better treat her good and dont cheat
2006-11-24 09:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can we predict the future. Your best bet is to treat her with respect and gentleness, chances are that some for of love will occur and possbily grow into a true love.
2006-11-24 08:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are the only one knowing her. you can't notice a real personality after your marriage. it takes months or longer.
2006-11-24 08:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats so sad , can you talk to your familys
2006-11-24 08:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are idiot, she loves you.
2006-11-24 08:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by loveboy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋