My husband knocked me up and went to go live with his gf and take care of her children. He left me with all of the bills and is currently making my life hell... just like he did the entire time we were together. Ways to get revenge please? Real ways - things that I could do would be fantastic! Be specific.
2006-11-24 00:15:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Revenge will eat you alive, the best way to deal with the bum is to live well, have your child and sue his butt for child support.
Keep track of all the bills you are paying, he could have to repay you for half of what was incurred while you were together. Additionally I would start divorce proceedings now.
You can supply an attorney with his place of work or residence and have the papers delivered when it will cause him the most amount of discomfort.
2006-11-24 00:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait a second, I know that you want revenge but surely the best revenge is not to do anything, because he is probably expecting you to do something so that he will have even more reason to dislike you. So I don't think that you should do anything, but you should of course make sure that his pays his child support that is very important, also make sure that everyone knows that he has left you for his girlfriend, you need to get his family on your side. You could also refuse to let him see his child when it is born. But is it worth it, just leave the guy be remember karma, what goes around comes around, and he will get his
2006-11-24 08:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting even doen't do you any good; If you really want to correct the wrong you should ask your family or friends for help in dealing with your struggles and never ever sleep with him again. The fact that he left you to go play house with his girl friend meant he didn't care about you. He is although going to be connected to you forever because of the child you are having (you do have the option to give the child up for adoption). I know you wish like heck you could have the happy life without all of this stress. You can find someone else and life goes on. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-24 09:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that is seriously rotten, but revenge is not the answer cause its not going to make U be ok w/yourself. Evil things feed evil things. Besides u need to take care of/worry about u and that baby now, not wasting energy on tryin to figure out how to seek revenge. Sorry that is happening to u, and its horrible, but find another way. Start w/court ordered child support and insurance. Thats not revenge, its just him taking care of whats partly his responsibilty. Wish u well.
2006-11-24 08:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by Case C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
revenge will just tie u to this person forever,and u will remain bitter, and it will show in your next relationship. sure u counted on him, maybe u put too much trust in an untrustworthy man. revenge just hurts u, it keeps the hell going. just file for child support, go on with life. the sweetest revenge is to let him see u are doing well in spite of the hurt he did u, to see u happy in a new relationship and that you have moved on. let him have the gf, she will get the same as u did, because this is just who he is, won't be long before he is making her life just as bad as he made yours. child support, and distance yourself from him, he is a run away man, who will always run when their are any kind of problems to deal with, he isn't a step up to the plate, take responsibility kind of man, and u should be glad he is gone from your life.
2006-11-24 09:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate questions like these but for the sake of what happen to you I'll give this response. First take him to court and get your finances together first. If at all possible, find a male friend and spend a lot of time with him and be visible. I say this because though it was different circumstance in my personal life, it is what drove me up a wall. The thought of my wife with another man was too much for me to handle. I learned that my wife couldn't hurt me physically but she knew how to hurt me emotionally. That is my answer.
2006-11-24 09:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all make sure you get child Support. Get all the money you can from him. If you have to get a lawyer do that. Another thing if I were you I would just seem as if it doesnt bother you. Dont talk to him. If he wants to be a dad to your child then thats up to you to let him or not. I would obviously be thinking about divorce. Because I know from years of experience-once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. That is no lie. You'll see if you havent already.
2006-11-24 08:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you will never get even. the only one that you will hurt is yourself. Remember you have to take some responsibility of this also! You knew how he was. What you need to do it put the energy on getting your life together. Yes it is going to be hard, but it will be worth while, because it is for you! Move on, Try praying, it works!
2006-11-24 08:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to revenge him is to make your life better and more brilliant than his. The advise above is a good start.
2006-11-24 08:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Gaia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer and private investigator, get a few pics of him with his gf in compromising positions and sue him for divorce, alimony, and child support.
That'll be the best revenge... Men hate getting hit in the pocket.
2006-11-24 08:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋