What can I do to get him to come back home?

Question

I need to know how to win the love of my life back! Though I really have no answer as to why it is that he had to leave his family behind, I really dont care because hes the best thing thats ever happened to me and I dont want to lose him over something that we could work out. He tells me he doesnt know why but all he knows is that it doesnt feel right anymore and that it is just what he has to do. Is it really over for us and is there any hope at this point because he is ignoring me and wants nothing more to do with me and I just dont understand how you can stop loving someone overnight? He has taken our car and left me to deal with all the finances and I know what I make is not enough to supplement his portion of our bills. Im scared because I have no way to even get to the market because i now have no transportation but Ive gotta feed my child and his dog. He doesnt even care that we had no food for thanksgiving and no one to spend the holidays with. How do I get him to come home?

Answer 1

you know what?, men are a mystery, my partner and i split up, and overnight he was switched off, i dont know why or how they do it. i think its the way they cope with all the feelings they have inside them, anyway, we got back together a month after, i wasnt sleeping, eating, i was a complete mess i was heart broken, it took a week of no contact, to, me asking him to come and see me etc, we still lived apart for 6 months b4 i moved back in with him. those six months helped us find each other, listen to each other, and all that soul searching. now we live together and have a 9 month old daughter together, i do know how your feling hy heart goes out to you. maybe he needs the space in his head as men do, to gather his thoughts, he wont ofstopped loving you overnight, he is just hiding it. try and get in touch with him and ask him if he will come and have a tal with you to try and discuss what went wrong. and tell him you need some help financially for your child and yourself and the dog to eat..... if that does not work i dont know? maybe its a matter of time. good luck

Answer 2

I don't like to meddle into other peoples business, but you ask, so---From what you wrote, I see no reason you should want HIM back. It appears evident that he cares nothing for you or your child, sad to say. What you really need is emotional and financial support - you could ask about that in your next question.
I can understand and sympathize with you about feeling left on your own and scared, but I honestly do not feel that HE, who at even such a time as Thanksgiving doesn't even care, could be your answer to your problem. Don't let you life revolve around a nonexistent love. You're young, your writing is good, and seem like a sincere person, so, you're not a loser - but losing him now might just work out better for you than it happening later.
I sincerely wish you the best outcome with whatever happens, and hope things are better for you before Christmas.
Always remember, others care for YOU and your child, even if he doesn't.
Happy Holidays from your friend in FL
BTW : A REAL MAN wrote this.

Answer 3

There is no magic bullet for situations like this. If I were in your shoes, I would take stock of my life and situation and make the changes I needed to be capable of supporting myself and my child. Not making enough money? Find another job or take on more hours. No transportation? Is there any public transportation in your area? Work on getting your own life together for your sake and for your child's sake. Don't wait for him to return. Often (though not always) when a person who does this sees that you are doing just fine without them they realize just what they could lose or have lost and come home. You don't have the luxury of waiting to see whether or not this is true. At the very least, go to your local social services for some temporary help while you get your life in order so that you and your child don't wind up without a roof over your heads and food in your stomachs. As for him, he is liable for paying child support whether or not he is "with" you. Get to work on that as well. He helped create this child. It is your joint responsibility to ensure that your problems don't fall on your kid, who has done nothing to deserve this.

Answer 4

The first questions you must ask yourself is "Why do I WANT him to come home?" From the tone of your question, it appears that you are scared of being alone and having to support yourself and your child - and you are totally justified in feeling this way. However, this is a man who only cares about himself. There are government agencies that can help you. Do you have any family or friends that can take you in for a while? Use the resources available to you. Concentrate on getting back on your feet instead of trying to get back a selfish man.

Answer 5

I personally wouldn't want him to come back. Just start your life over it will be hard but you can do it sell anything that he might of left behind get you a car and just worry about your kid and what your going to do with your life stop worrying about that loser if he can leave you with nothing and a child then he never really loved you anyway good luck have a nice life

Answer 6

You may not like my answer, but it is time to forget his return.
With what you have wriiten here, You will do far better on your home.
Yes, it is going to be hard for you in dealing with all the debts he leaves you with.
You can do it, give yourself a break and work at it. It will happen for you.
Forgt trying to communicate with him. I know this may sound easy for me to say, but Dont keep trying to communicte with him.
There are many orgnizations out there where you can get help.
Approach them and take it.
that is what they are there for.
If you put your mind to it, you will surprise yourself at the results you cam make with truning things around. YOU CAN DO IT.
YOU DONT NEED HIM.
DONT EVEN ATTEMPT TO BRING HIM BACK
Then find yourself someone who is stable and cares for you and your son. Remember. He is leglly responsible for part of the bills and also for support for your child. Go after him for these things.
Seek a good legal representative and take him to the cleaners.
No man should treat his spouse like this. all you guys might not like that, but this guys so happens to believe that many need to shape up. Good luck and best wishes to you for a happier life now.

Answer 7

You can't make him come back home. Time to re-access your life, and to move forward. See an attorney, and try to get alimony, or some type of support from him. Also go to your local Social Services Department, and see what help is available for you; they may be able to assist you with getting a car. Good luck, but move on!

Answer 8

If this is the firs time, dont take him back. He will do it again. And I agree with some of the answers get an legal help. I hate a man that just zip up and go. I dont think he is some one you want to get old with

Answer 9

Tell him to come and get his dog, or you will have to call the SPCA, to take him, because you can not only feed your children, let alone a dog, You may have to go to social services. You need to forget him, yes it is going to be hard, but why would you want someone who does not want you? You need to concentrate on how you are going to make it, and forget about him, he does not care about you, I am sorry about putting this to you like this. but you have to face facts. Sometimes life is hard. but you have to be strong, so you can survive. You may be able to get some legal advice from a lawyer, they will be able to advise you! So be strong, and think smart, start to work on what you have to do, to take care of your family!

Answer 10

An irresponsible husband like yours is certainly a bastard to me. Why do you still want him comes back to you although he has hurt and leave you to face all burdens alone.

Let him go as far and don't ever let him come back to home because he doesn't fit to be man who is typical selfish and irresponsible human being!