she also like me.what can i do?
2006-11-22 23:48:16 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is always going to be someone along the line that you run into while you are married that you are gonna feel attracted too!!!
It is human nature. You are married and settled down. She is young and free and makes you think of your younger care free days.
What will this attraction bring you if you follow through with it? You are thinking with your member not your head. I'm sure in your head you will justify the pro's of what you can do with this lady. And just how great it would be to be with her. But I am telling you this is all that it is SEX!!!!!!!!!!!
And once you have nailed this girl a couple of times you will regret you decsion. Sex won't be exciting with her after awhile it will become the norm. The only thing that gets you so excited now is the thought of a new face and new girl. But once you have beaten that feet you will be right back to square one.
Think of the con's of this situation. You have a lovely loyal wife at home. She gave birth to your son. Your name sake. I'm sure that she does all she can to help make and keep you happy on a daily basis. Now think of why you married her in the first place. Remember how she made you feel? Think of all the great memories you share together. Think of the love that you felt for her. You can have that back.
Think of your son. Of how he looks up to you how you are the light in his eyes. Daddy's boy. Think of how much he loves you and trust you. Think about how much he loves his mommy.
Now think about what is going to happen to him if you screw around on his mom? You will rip his little heart out. You may even possibly turn him against you.
Think of what you are gonna do to your wife? You are gonna break her heart and turn her world upside down just so you can screw some lady who can't seem to find herself a single avaliable man. Why is that?
Tell me what kind of lady would chase a married man? A home wrecking hoe!!!!!! It's a game to her. You are suppost to be off the market to her. You are a competition to her. She wants to get you to stray from your wife so that she can prove to herself that she has still got it.
See life to some people is accuring what you can't have. Getting what is off limits to you. Do you think that this lady cares one ounce for your son? Do you think for one mintue that she cares how your affair will affect him?
I can't tell you what to do here but I can suggest that you think twice before you make a huge mistake!!!!!
Think of your son!!! Think of your wife! Think of all you have to loose if an affair ever gets out. Your home, family, friends, respect, even possibly your job.
Believe me you will loose way more than you will ever gain with this lady!!!!!
If your sex life with your wife has become routine or boring take her and go shopping at some nolvety stores. They have lots of ideas and lots of treats and gifts that you can buy to help spice things up again.
If you go and do this I promise things in that area of your life will get better and then you will kick your self for ever thinking of screwing her over.
There is always going to be some one out there other than your spouse that you will find attractive. This is normal. It is human nature. It is how you respond to this attraction that makes the difference.
Don't think for one mintue that your wife hasn't came accross another male that she thought was attractive or one that thought she was attractive. She chooses to be loyal and stay were she is because of the love and commitment she made to you.
Why don't you imagine that? Imagine for a mintue that she gave into those feelings. How does this make you feel? How would you feel if she left you or screwed around on you with a co-worker?
I really hope you make a wise choice with your life!!!
Good Luck
2006-11-23 03:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What happen to thses 40's men.
I read couple of other questions some where here related to this kind of affair. All are in their 40's, married and with children and having affairs with co-employees who are singles. Quite similar type of extra marrital affairs.
Some one said wisely- "MEN AT FOURTYS ARE NAUGHTYS".
Sandeep, just guess, your wife, if she is a house wife, inviting the handsome stud, staying in the neighbour, for lunch and having post lunch sessions, when you are out in office and son at school.
Think !!!!
2006-11-23 01:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by ga ga 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty bad behaviour on her part. She knows you're married and have a lovely wife and son, yet she's trying to disrupt a family?! There are few definitions of "evil" that seem clear to me, but this is one of them. I think the "frnd."-ship should end immediately. She needs to grow up.
2006-11-22 23:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is happened when Men crossed age 45 or so when our wives are all busy with children and not taking much interest in what their Hubbies wants or else not keeping even company whenever they go out.In view of this Men are attracted to other suitable women who is close and lovable.Friendship and going out with her is a Good thing.However there should not be sexual relationship as it is dangerous to both.It is just a natural phenomenon only.
2006-11-22 23:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by shri 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do the right thing. Stay loyal to your wife and son or you just might find yourself a lonely divorced guy. The office girl isn't worth the price you, your wife and your son would pay!!!
2006-11-23 00:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by bethanybuilder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is giving the same advice here......now its up to you as to what you do with it!!!!!!
Look....if you value your Marriage and your family.....you would do what ever it takes to get over this attraction!!
If you find your having a hard time ignoring this woman at work..... find a new job!!!
If your asking this question online....your probably ready to act on this attraction....so don't do it...........for your wife and kids sake....
Do the right thing......you'll be happy you did!!!
2006-11-23 02:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting attracted to a member of opposite sex is a normal tendency but then life is a matter of making the right choices.Its you has to decide whether to topple your apple cart by acting on your lust or to nurture and protect your lovely wife and the little son for whom you mean the world.And who knows the second lady in question may walk out of your life anytime after having fun and rocking your boat. good luck, the choice is yours!!
2006-11-23 00:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by zaetta 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be ashamed of yourself for even asking such a question. Will you betray the person who loves and trusts you? Do you want your wife to have sex with other men? How would that make you feel? Do not cheat on her! Ask Jesus to forgive you for your evil lust.
2006-11-22 23:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think you're old enough to know the RIGHT answer...
You should tell your wife about it i guess. Who knows- she's also going through what you're experiencing right now, you know- being attracted to another single male out there and she just doesn't have the guts to do the first move to save herself from being guilty just because of the thought that her husband is being faithful to her and wont have the nerve to ruin their so called "Family".
2006-11-23 00:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i made that mistake once my wife left me with 2 kids and so did the unmarried friend only i was 35 she was 22
2006-11-22 23:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋