My fiance and I are expecting our first baby and as we have large families we have to really cut back on the amount we spend on Christmas gifts. My brother and his wife have a baby daughter who we will buy for as normal but do you think its bad if we don't spend as much on others? We are really working hard to save for the baby's arrival and we just dont have the spare cash to spend on gifts. We were thinking about spending £10 - 15 on each person, does this sound really mean?
2006-11-22 23:37:42 · 13 answers · asked by kimbo1605 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
No not at all. The one problem with Christmas is too many people go over board spending way too much money they do not have and end up paying for it the rest of the year. Just buy what you can afford. Don't go over board especially with the new baby coming. If they don't understand will that is their problem not your problem.
One of the best ways to solve those kinds of problems is for every one to agree on a set amount to spend on each other's gifts like at office parties. Tell them what you are spending and tell them not to spend any more on your gifts.
2006-11-22 23:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really IS the thought that counts. You are right to save money for your baby. You are also kind to spend as much on your niece as ever. Consider suggesting to your extended family that you all cut back on the gifts for the adults, and focus on the kids. You might be surprised at their relief! You could also suggest that everyone in the family pull one name of another family member out of a hat, and then everyone just buys one nice gift instead of a lot of littler things. Do be sure and state a spending limit. Merry Christmas!
2006-11-23 11:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by pupsx0r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would they know what you have spent?
I am a bargain shopper and I always look for deeply discounted gifts that allow me to appear to give more than I pay.
And I understand where you are coming from, I have 11 nieces & nephews and when I did not have a small child I spent $20-$30 each (but I started buying in January!) Since my baby girls arrival, and a downturn in manufacturing directly affecting my company, this year I am still debating if I can swing $5 per kid. I'm sure I'll find something cool, and I'm sure you can too.
Congrats on the upcoming baby & marriage
Happy Holidays
2006-11-23 07:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad at all.
A few years ago my husband and I had no money for Christmas. We scarpped together soem to buy for the kids. For the adults we wrote letters telling each one what we loved about them and how they had impacted our lives. Too often we don't talk about our favorite memories or how much we really feel about family and friends until they are gone.
Those letters they will all remember. The items you buy on sale will be forgotten in a few months.
Congrats on the baby. Try not to over extend yourself physically, the holidays can just get too busy.
Happy holidays!
2006-11-23 11:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Christmas isnt about how much you spend. I'm sure that your family will understand. congratulations on the baby!
2006-11-23 07:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by pebbles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. We all have to "cut our cloth accordingly". The cost is irrelevant.Its the love that goes along with that gift that counts.
2006-11-23 08:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is true that the amount you spend doesn't matter. People understand.
2006-11-23 07:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Perhaps you might want to inform the others in your family of yoru plans and the reasons for them. I'm sure they will understand.
2006-11-23 07:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by mxzptlk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to getting married and then having a baby?
If your worried about this your kid has no hope.
2006-11-23 07:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not bad. Everyone should understand completely.
2006-11-23 16:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by justme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋