I am 14 years old and unfortunatly lost my virginity a couple of weeks ago! I love my boyfriend and he loves me but i was not ready. i was just wondering because we did it on a beach and i have heard stories about it being unsafe, so i was wondering if there are any health hazzards?
2006-11-22 23:14:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
The stories about beach sex being unsafe has to do with having sex in the water and sand getting in your vagina. Both can cause infections. If you did not have sex in the water and had sex on a blanket, you should be okay. Hopefully you used a condom!
Because you are now sexually active, you need to consider going on 'the pill' or another form of hormonal birth control. Condoms are 97-98% effective, but a combination of hormonal birth control (99%) and condoms is much safer. Obviously, continue to use condoms until you are in a long term monogamous relationship with a well trusted partner. A visit to a local Planned Parenthood or sexual health clinic would be a good idea. There you can ask any questions about pregnancy, contraception or sexually transmitted infections (even virgins can have STI's so get tested regularly starting now) as well as get on hormonal contraceptives and pick up free condoms. Since you are so young, I'll assume your parents knowing that you are having sex is something you'd rather avoid. That's okay. Planned Parenthood will not tell your parents that you are sexually active or on the pill. If you'd rather use your own doctor to get on the pill, tell your mom that you are having menstrual problems and heard that 'the pill' will help.
Also, you need to start getting yearly exams and PAP smears to check for HPV. HPV is a sexually transmitted virus that can cause cervical cancer. You should also get tested for STI's regularly.
Hopefully, you know these things!
The other answerer said "you don't want to be used up by the time you are 20" that is an ignorant and disgusting response. Being sexually active does not make you 'used up' or change you in any significant way that you would become 'used up'. I'm sorry that that answerer said that. If you don't feel like you can handle a sexual relationship at this point, talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. There is nothing wrong with refraining from sex for a few more years after you lost your virginity. I will tell you though, that sex will definitely get better after your first few times, so don't let this experience turn you off sex forever.
2006-11-22 23:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. If you start to notice anything unusual, go see a doctor. Please quit having sex until you are ready. 14 is very young to start, do you really want to be all used up by the time you hit your 20's?
2006-11-23 07:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋