I've heard women say he'll change for me, is this true?
2006-11-22 22:58:02 · 21 answers · asked by Got Curves? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no he won't change for u or anyone, after awhile he will get tired of u, no matter how beautiful or moral, no matter what, he will return to what he know's, and what he has done in his past. we all believe we are the answar to it, that he will not do the same things to us,as he did to the other's, we believe we are special, that we aren't anything like the others he was involved with. we even blame the other's for his behaviors in our mind, but in reality he doesn't change. if u think a little piece of paper will mean a thing to him your deceiving yourself. when a man has a bad track record, or there are issues in their past, we need to pay special attention, and maybe not marry that person at all.
2006-11-23 01:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Women seem to think they have the power to change a man to how they want him to be. That is the biggest problem out there I believe. I am in no way condoning promiscuity after marriage, but if a woman won't accept you for who you are, I wouldn't stay. Find a woman that can deal with this. Maybe a woman that is into swapping, or swinging. This way neither of you have to change, and can still love each other until the cows come home. Don't get into something where your personality is going to try to be quailed or erased. I promise you that, if you get into a marriage in which the woman wants to change you, not only have you both made a mistake, but there will be nothing but conflict, pain, and even hatred can develop. If she doesn't love you for who you are now, DON't DO IT, because she'll despise you for who she turned you into.
2006-11-22 23:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU can't change anyone.. the person has to want to change. Why exactly is this person promiscous? There could be many reasons.. and if you find a reason that can be fixed, well.. then you could probably "change" the person.
Think about it.. if a man is promiscous because he's trying to find the right person.. he'll stop being that way when he finds her. If he's promiscous now, but he has strong moral values about marriage, then he'll probably "change" when he gets married. You can't really 'change' someone, but you can figure out the reason they're the way they are.. and change that.
2006-11-22 23:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will only change himself when he finds the woman he truly respects, trusts, and loves. A woman can't change that. He could have many women before he finds the one that reaches him deep down in his soul. That is the one that he will do anything to keep and not hurt in any way. Just getting a man to propose or agree to marriage doesn't mean he will change.
2006-11-22 23:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a work out and a half to encourage good behavior in him but you can tell him what you are looking for in a man and see if you can make an agreement of some sort so that you are both happy.
Be patient and have faith in him and his decision to leave old habits in the past and move forward with something new and real, you!
Good luck!
2006-11-22 23:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible you date around and have your fun but then there is this woman that catches your eye and she might just be the one but if she is then sleping around must come to an end. Alot of people get married at first its lust I dont think its love they are both attracted to one another but then things go wrong the woman is feeling unattractive and lets herself go especially if she is a stay at home mom. And this causes alot of men to stray because their not attracted to her anymore and if he loved her he wouldnt be looking for it somewhere else. I wouldnt want to marry a man that wants to have several sexual partners and I dont think marrying him will change the fact.
2006-11-22 23:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this carefully, can anyone change you? Change occurs because and individual wants to change, yes outside factors may influence a decision to change, but change itself is a personal desire to improve.
To many people get married thinking they will change their partner...it seldom happens.
2006-11-22 23:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, he says he will commit to you to get you into bed more ... he probably uses that line on everybody.
A woman can't change a man .... he has to change himself.
2006-11-22 23:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by wizebloke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO- HE WILL ONLY CHANGE FROM A SINGLE CHEARER TO A MARRIED CHEATER. WOMEN THAT THINK HE WOULD CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE PROBABLY STILL BELIEVE IN FAIRYTALES. THE ONLY WAY IS WHEN HE DECIDES TO CHANGE OR WHEN HE FALLS IN LOVE HEAD-OVER-HEELS WITH SOMEONE.
2006-11-22 23:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be old enough to consider marriage and not know the answer to that. Were you raised in a convent. No, he won't change.
2006-11-22 23:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋