i am a singaporean and english is my first language although when i go out with friends they talk in chinese...and i find it difficult to express myself in this language although i dont totally sucked in it...therefore they have an impression im quiet and sometimes i feel left out...anyone has this experience before and solutions to overcome it??
2006-11-22 22:36:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a similar problem when I go out with French people.
Try going out with closer friends and smaller groups, but force
yourself to speak the language you have problems with.
For example, going out with two other friends both of which
speak Mandarin and one of them is very quiet can be a good
solution. They will usually speak Mandarin and there'll be
plenty of silent moments for you to fill it.
But the most important thing is for you to try to be less afraid
of making mistakes. People will normally focus on what you
are saying instead of the way you're saying it.
2006-11-25 14:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pablo D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had experienced this 5 years ago and had overcomed it..Ã
i felt what you are feeling right now..i felt left out, i can't relate to them..
what i did is i practiced using their language..i also told my friends what i feel so they helped and supported..
i enjoyed learning a new language..Ã
don't worry too much, you'll overcome that too..Ã
2006-11-22 22:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by angelren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your first language is the one you think in and the one you are most comfortable with,
2006-11-22 22:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout trying to talk with your friends in english, it'll make you feel better.
2006-11-22 22:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by •°o.O чĀпИǎĤ O.o°• 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋