is it ok if i ddecide to cut all strings with friends...?

Question

i never really had alot of friends because in the end i have been screwed over by them,,,i give WAY too much. My last ²friend²lived with me for free for about...5 months and i even gave her spending money for our trip we took....her sister and I used to be freinds but since i decided to start looking out for myself and not other people..she got offended ,said some MEAN things you dont say to people and i just never spoke to her again..but the other friend that lived with me..i just moved far away and slowly cut her off.....i lost a few other friends aswell because they did not like her....
but i decided to take time away from everyone and i let her have my apartment for a month while i was awa...and when i got back my scanner was missing and one of her friends that was over told me they partied and she"had sex on my couch" and laughed like it was funny...then a bottle of wine i had for 5 to 6 years which cost alot of money was drank....

is it wrong for me to just say ***K it...i can make new friends where i am now...and just forget it all.....would it be the best.or try and keep in touch with these people..

Answer 1

I understand where you are coming from, this has happened to me too. Yes, by all means cut them off and make new friends, we can't pick out relatives( I cut them out too) but you can pick your friends, Good luck, this process takes some time, but eventually it will pay off. I have a tendency to keep people at arms length, and be very careful what you tell them

Answer 2

It is perfectly ok to cut ties with all of your friends. Afterall, who needs to have anyone to talk to, anyone to care about them, anyone to love them...right?
Ok, now that I got that out of my system...it's ok to get rid of people that are taking more than they are giving in a relationship. I use the WIIFM rules, What's In It For Me. If I am not getting something out of that relationship that I cannot get somewhere else, and I am giving an awful lot, I end the relationship.
You also might want to examine if you are just a giver. If you are, there is no sense blaming someone else for that. If you give, it is part of who you are and there will be those that take advantage of it, but that is your shortcoming in that case.

Answer 3

i wouldn't call that bunch of people who were around u "friends". they were using u and u let them do it cos probably u re afraid that if u don't let people use u they wouldn't find u amusing enough just to be friends, without asking anything in return. so if u cut them off i don't think they will miss u. but u sure will be lonely for some time. u need to look at yourself, why people don't want just to be with u because of they like your company, not because ur e doing them favours.

Answer 4

I think you still need to sort out what's right for you and what you want. I think you need to place yourself in a new location and be a loner for about 60 days exploring what you need, what you want, and where you will find happiness for you.
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Answer 5

to me its sounds like yor friends was taking you for a rite mug!!! no its not bad to cut them off as they aint really friends if they take advantage of your goodness!! But that doesnt mean that you should never have friends as every one is different. just stop being so nice think about number one for once!!
xxxx

Answer 6

there is no life without a friend

Answer 7

those people are not your friends.they are around you because you buy them things.met new friends where you are at.

Answer 8

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