2006-11-22 22:18:49 · 21 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, if you don't like me, how can you very well expect me to honestly answer this question ? Do you like animals or space aliens ? Because you won't get very far in the real world with your present attitude. You have to start liking yourself before you can learn to like others.
2006-11-22 22:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to meet a fellow misanthrope.
I don't know why you dislike people, but maybe why I dislike people will ring a bell for you. Many people have been cruel to me and I also find many people to be hypocrites, phonies and liars. This is why I love animals - has an animal ever been cruel or lied to me? Absolutely not! They give unconditional love.
So, how can you start liking people? Well, why not try it one by one? Find a person you like, then like him - develop a friendship and then go on to the next individual. I'm sure you do not dislike the whole world - so get out there and try to find people who are your "cup of tea".
I just want to add one thing - it's a great gift to love people - and since we are not blessed with this gift, we have to make the extra effort and try to do what does not come naturally to us.
Good luck!
2006-11-22 22:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get disillusioned with people. Perhaps you're spending too much time with nasty ones. Why not broaden your horizons and try something new like an evening class or do something for the homeless or voluntary work with disabled children. The latter is the kind of place you'll find very genuine caring people to make friends with.
2006-11-22 22:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by doing some kind of charity work. You don't have to go into a home and spend time with people. Rather start by donating, clothes, money, food, whatever you have. After a while, it will get to you in a good way and you will want to get more involved.
Hope it does help.
2006-11-22 22:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by DolphinLami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to start liking yourself. The things you do not like in other people are actually the things you dislike about yourself. A complicated mix of transferrence and projection. Your expectations of yourself may be too high or too low but rather than seeing this in yourself you imagine it in others and end up rejecting them. In my experience most people are likable when given the opportunity - this takes time and effort on my behalf but the rewards are more than worth it. Have faith in yourself and you will have faith in others. Take that leap now!
2006-11-22 22:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by paul h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ashamed its a psychological problem. its a reflection of your inner-self. it means that you dislike yourself, you don't accept yourself and people around you your not simple and loving.
What to do
make self analysis of your background, things you fear most people who disappointed you when you were a child. then accept yourself start liking yourself and look positive things from the people, know that you are the one with the problem not the people its just your perception to them, they are happy and don't know that you dislike them only few know, why tense yourself? just be simple - simplicity is liking, is loving, is neutrality, is acceptance.
Do some meditation will help you to be simple, neutral and to let go your trauma and fear inside you. the do something that will socialise you like outings joining creative groups where will be sharing common interests, slowly you will start to see how much you missed people.
Have a nice time and relax
Bern
2006-11-23 00:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother...
The ones that are worth liking don't come out too often. The others aren't worth the hassle. Save your energy for the rare occasions when you meet somebody who has a brain and a personality.
I'll look you up next time there's a blue moon!
2006-11-22 23:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in general are not very nice. There are very few of them worth knowing, they are rude, arrogant and very selfish beings. On the up side, there are a few - very few - who are worth knowing and can make a difference in your life.
Until you feel the need to get to know someone, keep an open mind, but be aware!
2006-11-22 23:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the reason why you dont like people is that you have set your mind in your first impression... try to know a person more and you might find out that your first impression was wrong... go out more with people and try to make friends. i know it is going to be hard specially if you grew up with that thought in your head, but it is worth a try... after all, no one likes to live life without a someone to share it with....
2006-11-22 22:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by -'UpEnDi'- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what stopped you from liking them in the first place, and try to find a way around that to give someone a chance.
2006-11-22 22:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋