I'm a 24 year old male, but all my life I've known I should be a woman, but I'm scared to tell my family how I feel, which is the best way to do it
2006-11-22 21:30:45 · 20 answers · asked by hermionesimpson_granger 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would do it with the therapeutic help of a counselor who is educated in the treatment and progress of gender dysphoria, up to and including the sex change, if that is what you desire. you have much courage to open up about this. Good luck in everything.
2006-11-22 21:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that Mum doesn't already know. Though she probably has blocked her mind to the thought for years. However, like a true Mum she will be so relieved that you have managed to face the fact that you are a man on the outside but a women on the inside.... figuratively speaking. And she will be overjoyed that you will be happy with yourself after years of what must have been torment for you.
Please if you know in your own heart that is what you need for your life to take on some meaning, then you must tell your family. Though I would speak with Mum first. All the best!
Edit: You are obviously aware that you will need professional advice and support. But speak to the family first off (they will be bemused at first no doubt but not critical). Even if they show their disapproval it's your life and you will need support from the professionals, though I am sure your family will give you all the support you need from them as well as that of the professionals.
2006-11-23 05:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First tell the parent that you are most closest to first ( or even a relative ) and see what their reaction is. If they support you then that is on step closer to telling the rest of your family.
If your family does not support you then they just need time, this will be a big change for them aswel as you, although it will be a bigger shock to them because they brought a little boy into this world and brought you up as a boy. They should eventually see your side of the story, it will just take time. They are your parents, and parents love their children no matter what.
Good luck X X X
2006-11-23 08:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by k_shorto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never the 'right time' for such a disclosure, unfortunately most people do not take such news well initially. I would suggest that, if you have not done so already, build a support network of other people either in a similar situation to yourself, or who have already 'been there, done that', and try to have at least one of those people accessable to you for support at short notice.
Other than that, I guess all I can say is try not to plan to hard as such events rarely, if ever, occur as planned, take a deep breath and protect yourself.
Good luck, you are on your way now :)
2006-11-23 06:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by tysonian22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just bite the bullet. you gotta do it sooner or later. just do it in a calm and tasteful way, and dont be surprised if they dont warm u p to the idea right away. some may never accept it but that is the risk you face i am a crossdresser and have just recently started telling my family i have no intentions of becoming a woman just dressing like one a few of them have a problem with it but most are accepting of it even thogh they dont quite understand it.
2006-11-25 01:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to say this. Ask for a quiet moment with the most sympathetic person in the family. And just come out with it.
2006-11-23 05:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son your age and although I might be shocked at first, I would still love him no matter what. I have always said, that if my children are happy, I will be happy. You are who you are, so therefore, be who you want to be. I can only imagine there is no 'right time' to tell your parents, but don't be scared of them, you may be surprised. If they love you, they will accept it. Good luck to you.
2006-11-23 17:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Somer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tysonian hit the mark on the ans.
I can only add that "all your life" is a short one and if you haven't by now-get advice from professionals in this area. True-the pros. don't know it all, but they can give you the much needed advice you need about YOURSELF.
Please be gentle with your folks, they love you the way you are now and to inform them of this could cause a lot of hurt (not to mention anger).
Your mom may already know but that doesn't mean she accepts it.
I know you want to share your info. but please become more confident and self assured with yourself before talking with folks. They will see your fear and may misinterpret it.
2006-11-23 06:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oof - gently!! And not at the table on Christmas Day, families don't like revelations spilling out all over their turkey!
Best wishes and good luck for the future!
2006-11-23 05:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow I am a Simpson too and we are a pretty straight laced bunch, but we are very loving so I would just be honest with them. Good Luck
2006-11-23 05:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋