Please help! My mom and my dad just got a divorce and my mom loves someone else who loves someone else who hates my mom. And my dad already has a girlfriend. I am afraid to loose my mom because she's really all I have left. I hate seeing her upset and I can't cheer her up. This is the second time she has talked about killing her self and one time she got in a fight over the phone with the guys (girl) roomate and slammed her hand on the outside of our house and cut the area between her finger and thumb. She also has a drinking problem. I really need help...
2006-11-22 20:44:45 · 13 answers · asked by HinakoWatanabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try getting another adult to try and talk to her. Keep telling her that you are there for her now and forever will be. Comfort her. Keep the alcohol away from the house. Get her into an AA meeting. Get a doctor. Get a priest. Or pastor. Whatever. Uncle or Aunt. Mom's best friend. Ask your Dad to help..Not to ask him to get back together with your mom, cos that will only make them both depressed if they are not happy together and got stuck with each other. Get a third party to help you. And make sure that party genuinely cares.
2006-11-22 20:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Eury Peima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said her mum was very depressed for a long time, so not only has your girlfriend had to loose her father in a very horrific way, she's then had to live with her mother who was going through a deep depression. I know only too well what it's like to live in a house with someone and feel as if you can't get through to them, as if their mentally pushing you away. She probably felt trapped, and the fact that she now has to live in a house with a man who she know (and he probably knows too) has driven her mother to commit suicide, is not going to help matters. You have to remember that what your experiencing now, the way she's acting towards you, is only a minor part of how her mum must have been behaving to her. For anyone, one of the most comforting things someone else can do when your in a state, is to just hold you, to give her a cuddle and not say anything, let her think, but with the reassurance of your arms around her. After a while she'll know that your a keeper, that your not going to go. The worst thing you could do is to give her that space or to split up. She might split up with you, or she might say she doesn't want you right now. But even though she'll need space, if you leave, you'll be one more person who's left her (willingly or not) hope this helps, if only a little.
2016-05-22 21:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be alone during times like these!
Call a rehab center in your area and ask for advice. They will lead you in the right direction and tell you what you can do to help out.
Your mom needs to get some issues she has addressed by professionals i.e. depression, passive-aggression and suicidal thoughts.
You can comfort her and show her the way...after that it is all up to her!
Good luck and happy Thanksgiving.
She should be thankful she has a daughter like you who truely cares about her! Now that is a reason worth living.
2006-11-22 22:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your mom and sometimes love is hard but if you want to see your mom be happy and share all of your happy moments in your life with you get her some hepl right away. Your young and this is hard for you but there are professionals who will help her all you have to do is pick up the phone. You have a computer get some resources of of it.
2006-11-22 23:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ummm i have the exactly the same problem with my mum like she's involved with a few other guys and 1 of them hate's her and all that other stuff. What i sugest is if you have any other spare time maybe either talk to your other relatives about it or maybe go to a councillor. i dont know if that might help but i am trying to do that with my mum and i think it is slowly working.
2006-11-22 20:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by thunderpants91 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do this on your own, talk to an adult, she needs help. See if she will come to see a doctor with you or call emergency number for help. If you are in school talk to a teacher. What ever you do don't ignore this problem. I feel for you, you should not have to deal with this.
2006-11-22 21:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the elders of your mothers family or some family friends who like her. She needs help to come out of addiction of alcohal. Once it is done she will be able to think clearly and all problems will be sorted out.
2006-11-22 21:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you now have to be the parent here, hard as it sounds, u have to be there to listen to your mom, as she needs a friend. your mom is filled with self hatred. your mom needs therapy. get your mom some help.your mom has alot of unresolved things in her life, that she hasn't been able to work out,she has alot of remorse and grief she hasn't moved past. she is depressed over it, and first the depression needs to be dealt with.
2006-11-24 12:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mother is an alcoholic, correct? Seek Medical treatment for her... If she is threatening to hurt herself, it is your job to call 911. She can't think clearly in an alcohol abuse state! Seek Help from Medical Proffessionals. A.S.A.P.!
2006-11-22 20:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore what she said. Depress is something bed. your mom need to see a doctor.
2006-11-22 21:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋