ive been dating a very cute emo boy and i am in love with him..we have been together for almost nine months...ive been seeing a thug boy at school who is HUGE and i really like it and also he is real agressive when i do him; and my bf is very gentle...i wanna keep my bf but i want to still be with thug dude....HELP !!
2006-11-22 20:28:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ask your b/f what he thinks about being in an open relationship and if he is OK with it then you are safe. I would still tell him about your 'thug' fling but not right after you ask him about the open relationship thing. Also if he says he is not into an open relationship then I don't know what you are going to do! I guess at that point in time you are just going to have to decide which one of these guys is more important to you and which one you want to keep in your life! Good luck with it BigGuy! *hugs* JAC<
in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
2006-11-22 20:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Unfortunately this may be a case where you do not get to have your cake and eat it as well. Unless you and your boyfriend have an open relationship, I do not thing that he will take it OK. You get to decide to you want to be with the one you care about, or do you want the sex, which I may add may last for a week, or two to three months. It is a common dilemma you are in, and this is the move to society, people have someone and move to find someone on the side to have sex with.
It is normal, but it comes with consequences which may not work out to your favor.
2006-11-23 00:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Brad B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend about it but be aware that he is more than entitled to break up with you for it, I know I would. If he's okay with an open relationship then you're okay. If not then choose who you want more, the thug or your boyfriend. You may have to cope with the fact that you can't have the best of both worlds. If you love someone then they should be enough.
2006-11-22 20:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rageling 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you want a open relationship which is very common when it comes to gay men i have found out.. You will half to sit down with your lover and see what he thinks about a open relationship and the thought you might want to sleep with another man and see how he takes it first before you just come out and say your cheating on him with someone else and that way you can decide from his reactions as im sure you wouldnt want to lose your B/F this is a decision your going to half to make on your own and find the way to do it and if you love him why do you cheat on him thats not LOVE AT ALL....
2006-11-23 00:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by micheal p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, you cant have your cake and eat it to, lol. Well, no, I take that back, you can if you dont say anything to your bf. But thats dishonest and in the end you might lose them both. Is your bf open to having an open relationship? That would be the only other option other than telling him whats going on.
2006-11-22 21:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are after the sex and the big wanger. Those are your values at this time. How would you feel if your BF told you he was getting it on with a thug because of his aggression and big wanger, which is saying you can't please him? Good luck learning the hard way. No one can save you from it. We all have made our bloopers. Good luck.
2006-11-22 22:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secrets have a way of biting you hard in the ****. You say that you love the cutey, how much? If you love some one doesn't it follow that you don't want to hurt them. Maybe you have used the word "love" to lightly.
You can't have the penny and the bun.....your call mate, but some ones gonna get hurt.
2006-11-23 02:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Paulo.GZ. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say stay with ur emo bf...thug dude just sounds like a fling..dont get caught! depending on your age...if ur young..have fun..but if ur serious pick one!
2006-11-23 00:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by chika0284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats harsh, you have to question yrself, do you love the person or just sex? You take the term "Boyfriend" loosely.
2006-11-22 21:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Good luck. :)
2006-11-23 01:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋