on sept 27 i gave birth to a beautiful lil girl. my fiance was with me the whole time from noon til i had her at 729pm after he feed the baby he left that made me look bad in my moms eyes she said he's not very affectinate and why did he leave we're both in our 30s. well all thru oct he had been very distant from me when i needed him the most thru post pardum. finally he told me he was disappointed with me cuz i had been late paying my bills while i was on maternity leave. he said y did't i tell him so he could help me he say i let my pride get in the way. he pays his on time.anyway he won't hug me i'm a pretty girl he won't touch me let alone kiss me. i just started back to work my debt will be cleared up next month nothin major. i just want to know is this a reason to withhold affection from me he gives it to our daughter everyday could it really be about my bills or do you think it may b someone else he says it isn't he's just disappointed is it really that deep please help
2006-11-22 19:50:34 · 11 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off Congratulations on the arrival of your gorgeous baby girl. Same day as my daughter but 28 years later. Now to your question, l don't believe that it would all be just over a few minor bills. I feel there is definately more to it. Have you tried really talking to him without getting angry and telling him exactly how you feel ? I would try that if you haven't already. Perhaps he is feeling a little left out with the new bubs and all. The fact that he is not affectionate at all is a real worry though. I really hope for your sake that he is not cheating on you, it seems to me that he could well be. Hope you can work this out but if not atleast you have your beautiful daughter to keep you occupied. Good luck with everything.
2006-11-22 20:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask him what the problem is, because he is the only one that knows.
It's doesn't seem logical that he would not show you any affection just because of a debt that will clearly be taken care of soon. And even if that is the reason, why would you want to be with someone like him? You need to find someone that will love you, and your baby in the future, unconditionally. This guy doesn't love you that way. Find someone who will cherish you no matter what.
2006-11-22 20:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Das 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage would have provided you & child with legal protection.
Now, you have no legal protection and as Fiance is apparently
not the man you thought he was, you are going to have trouble.
If not now, it appears that Fiance is going to soon leave you...
2006-11-22 19:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is using the bills as an excuse. You really need to talk to him about it.
2006-11-22 20:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
2006-11-22 19:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
its pretty sad if he is treating you like this after giving birth to his daughter. even worse if its over a few bills he needs to grow up.
2006-11-22 19:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like more to me
2006-11-22 20:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by holdnnmyown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have a baby if you guys don't have a solid relatioship
2006-11-22 20:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2006-11-22 19:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Major Toescurl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think its something else!! that ain't the reason
2006-11-22 19:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋