iseek help to deal with an abusive son?

Question

i am a senior person who has my son living with me he is very abusive to me does not contribute to the household expenses and will not leave when asked to

Answer 1

Throw is useless A S S in the garbage can

Answer 2

There are things you can do, first of all when he's out change the locks, and call the police to get a protection order against him. There are also social agencies where you can report him for elder abuse, get that sucker charged and he'll think twice about hurting you. Why haven't you phoned the police before if you wanted him out and he wouldn't leave? frankly, if it were me I would get some of my friends to deal with him if you know what I mean, no assault mind you, but just to put a scare into this guy, Boy, does it ever make me mad when people hurt and take advantage of the elderly. Look, he obviously has no respect for you at all, thinks he can push you around, Push back, well, with the cops anyways..

Answer 3

You don't say how he is abusive to you? Is it verbal or physical? If it is physical call the police. I know you don't want to do that to your son, but it may be the only way to teach him a lesson once and for all. If you are a senior, I'm assuming you son is well into adulthood. No man should treat his mother like that and you don't deserve it no matter what the past looks like. Be strong and stop putting up with it. It's the only way you can help him too. Kick him out!! Please!

Answer 4

You need to involve other members of the family, or friends, because you are going to need some support to do this. Tell someone you can trust what is going on - they will know what to do, It might even be best if you could go and stay elsewhere for a few days once he has been removed - and get an injunction out against him, banning him from coming anywhere near the house.

I feel for you - this is a very hard situation to face, Your son may have mental health problems and you might be torn between helping him and keeping yourself safe. Go with the latter - it will be of more help to him in the longterm as he needs to sort himself out.

Answer 5

Before I reply to your question may I point out that this is just my -- OPINION-- on how to treat the subject.

If you are an English person I suggest you go to the Citizens Advice Centre in your area --there you can get free legal help --or-- they will give you details on who to contact . Secondly -- if things are bad -- go to the police -- they are very POLITICALLY CORRECT -- these days and take domestic abuse quite seriously, but dojn't go there as a poor downtrodden person it's your RIGHT to be protected --whether it the attack comes from --friend -- family --or foe. Finally -- and do this only if you feel you can -- confront the swine -- dont -- plead --beg -- whimper-- and TELL him -- no --food -- washing --or eff all until he learns to respect his Mother ----BUT ONLY DO THIS IF YOU FELL YOU CAN I would hate to see you hurt --good luck .

Answer 6

Record the abuse, first...then, when you have a problem next time, call the emergency number where you are(911 in the states) and cry out that you are being attacked. When the police respond(they will get the address automatically), you can give them not only the history, but the recording and the fact that he tried to prevent your pleas for help. He'll go to jail overnight at the very least, but you'll have to testify against him or obtain a restraining order in order to prevent him coming near you until you're ready to deal with him again.

Answer 7

There is something called elder abuse= and it is against the law- and there are groups that defend seniors= I am surprised to see a senior using the internet= good for you!! get assist asap!!
There may be a number to call in your phone book under government services-take care=D

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Answer 8

Get his stuff in to bin bags leave them on the door step with a note so when he comes back from work or where ever he has been he will see what a complete c*nt he is, oh and while he was out you should get the locksmith round.

Answer 9

hellow thats a horible thing to be going through so id advise you to go to the councell and apply for home help and advise them of the situation they can if nessacary get a baring order if you tolirate this it will not just go away so be strong and ask the help of those who can the he cant be alloud to treat you like that any longer and the houseing authority could see it as an emergency and house you somewhere elce just ceep your actions to your self untill the matter is delth with i hope things go well for you

Answer 10

Have you another son that can sort this one on your behalf?
If not, give him a letter effectively evicting him, keep a copy, inform the police of what you are doing and if he takes no notice, pack his stuff and put it under a tarpaulin outside and change the locks immediately. Also inform your neighbours of whats happening and why so they can keep an eye on you.
Good luck and be strong!