i need some advice...?

Question

i am currently divorced, i have 5 children. i haven't had 2 work in 6 years, now that its just me and my children, i'm afraid of taking that first step of getting my ged and going back 2 school to pursue my nurseing. i fear failing my ged test, i fear wondering if i will make it. i sit around sometimes asking the question "why me", there are many nights i cry hoping that the necessities of my home will be provided. i am a strong believer in christ and i know he will see me through. but how do i get over this feeling of fear of succeeding in life now that i'm divorced, have 5 children to raise, go to work go to school, actually make something of myself. i just get so confused sometimes, i want 2 be happy, i want 2 succeed. i know all my questions wont be answered but can someone just give me some kind of advice i can take heed to?

Answer 1

Those poor kids.

Answer 2

First things first. Careerwise, what would you want to be doing and enjoy doing the next five to ten years or even more? If you have an inclination with and in love with nursing then go! be the best nurse that you can be! Regarding family, you have to know who will provide for their needs while you are in school? How will you be able to budget family as well as school time? Who will support you financially? You can also take career exams online or otherwise. You have to really know what you want and be able to take the responsibility with the actions and decisions that you have chosen. Ultimately, you have to pray for the decision before making a big leap. Ask someone who will be able to counsel you or pray with you. There are a lot of risks in life but then again, you have to walk past fear and the risk so that you can move on. So that you can grow both as a mature individual and as a good example for your kids.

Answer 3

I am sure you probably heard this saying before when "one door closes another door opens" I really believe that things happen for a reason and that we learn to accept them as they come and grow strong form them. Please don't be afraid to take chances get your GED and go to collage and get you nursing degree. I am not saying everything is going to be a piece of cake by all means I am sure there will time that you ask yourself what am i doing and you might just want to give up "but don't". Life will get better.Your children are very lucky to have such dedicated mother like you. Good luck

Answer 4

It amazes me when people come to Yahoo Answers to ask such complex personal questions. Problems like this cannot be solved by anyone here. Only you can solve them. Take your life into your own hands, stop depending on God to get you through everything. Has it ever occured to you that God may not exsist? And if he does, that he may not like you? In all likelyness he hates you. What if God has foresaken you? You have to do some things for yourself. God is not the answer to your problems. Go get your GED. You have to be an example to your children. Because if you keep going down your current course they will think that not working and being uneducated is alright.

Answer 5

You need lots of support from your relatives, friends and maybe support groups from divorced people like yoursef to see you through this critical period of life.

However, you yourself have to be strong to stand up on your own two feet. Remember that there are lots of people just like you who have succeeded in doing what you are about to do. So, believe in yourself is very important. Never let negative thoughts cloud your thinking.

Together with your children, you got to make out a workable plan (maybe with the help of some close friends/relatives or family counsellors), then stick to the plan. Good luck!

Answer 6

you seem to want it bad enought to be able to do it... it's just being srtong enough to actually do it... raising children is a much harder task then getting up and getting that ged... you can do it it's a simple test of common sense... go to your local bookstore and buy a ged book and study your butt off... freshen up and just go do it... you're going to feel that fear no matter what... not much different from being a kid about to take an exam in the fourth grade and wanting to pass it... the same fear you're just older

Answer 7

1st step is to have a desire to succeed. Next step is to establish a goal. Final step is to do it.

One step at a time.

It is now a cliche', but it is so true; If you do not try, then you have already failed. If you fail the GED, so what? Take it again.

Answer 8

What? Do you think that life comes easy? I don't know your circumstances, but your ex-husband should be helping with your 5 kids. If taking them for awhile while you get on your feet. You need to quit this 'woe is me' and take responsibility for your life and children. We do what we have to to survive in this life. Some have it easy, but most of us have to work to have one.

Answer 9

I'm a Christian, first I suggest you get into the word of God. It is only the word that will empower us and direct us. Sista EVERYTHING you need ot make it has already been placed inside u. God knew when you said "I DO" 5 kids ago that this day and time woudl come. Now what you need to do is pray and read the bible like never before. Ask the Lord to stir up the gifts he has placed on the inside ofyou that have laid dormant fo all these years. Truely greater is he that is within you than he that is in the world!! What the enemy (devil) tries to do is come in and make us think Gid has forgotton us, we can't make it, we're going to fall apart, etc. But WE HAVE TO HAVE THE WORK OF GOD ON THE INSIDE that the Holy Ghost can stand up inside you and be a witness to combat that thought/spirit and declare that u CAN do all things through Christ that strengthens you. You go tto make up your mind that either I will believe that God still has my back, that God wil help me provide and raise these 5 children, that God will see me through nursing school, that God will mend the pain of divorce in my heart, etc. etc. or you might as well sit in a chari in yoru bedroom for the rest of your life and let you rkids feed and change ya'(i say that lovingly, smile). Weeping my endure for the night, BUT JOY COMETH IN THE MORNING!! U can do it, YOU REALLY CAN, bu tyou got to REALLY believe. Divorce is not the endo all an dbe all of you nor your life. God still has a marvelous plan foryou, but this is yoru season of making and going through, but believe God will not fail you! He cannot fail you, you are his beloved, his treasure, the apple of his eye, fearfully and wonderfully made you are.

Pray with me:
Father in the name i fJesus I lift my sister up in prayer, that Lord you will guide her steps as she embarks on a new life. Lord we know you provide fo rher family and household. God we pray you cover and protect her childrena dnher home. Lord we ask that you touch right now in the name of Jesus. Touch this sita as she returns to schol. Lord relase the money she need to go to school, relase the favor to return and graudate form level to level. Lord we believe that there is nothgin you cannot do. U cannot and willnot fail this sita nor her family, You have given her everything that she needs that pertains to Godliness and wisdome. Thank you for the provisions in her home, Thank syou Lord for mednign the broken heart, touch my sist'as mind Lord that your thoughts become her thoguhts Lord and that you take her to another level in her faith in you. Lord help her to hold on for the promise you have for her is at coming. And we thank you for manifesting you love, faovr, joy , and faith in her ane her childrens life, it is o in Jesus name Amen.

Be encouraged sista's you will succedd, it's already done in the heavenly, now it's up to u in prayer and study an dfaith to bring into the earthly relam of manefestation! Email me if you need a email enocuraging buddy, God Bless.

Answer 10

keep going and think positive. you will pass that GED test. In the meantime get a part time job. Good luck and God Bless you.

Answer 11

Take it one day at a time. If you have faith you are half way there.Ask for help from your churh members and you might be suprised at how many will be happy to help you out.