2006-11-22 19:21:13 · 15 answers · asked by tanuja g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give respect and cook nicely to your in-law's taste.
2006-11-22 22:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be considerate, always place yourself in your mother -in law's place. Strive to understand her than being understood. Understand that whatever she does, she does it believing that it is for the good of her son. Every mother feels the same way. Don't get mad. When you become a mother in law yourself, you will understand . But why wait for that time and suffer a "war" with her now? Show concern instead and be gracious to reprimands and criticisms. Likewise with your husband. Love him and be a concerned wife but don't nag. Nagging will never get you anywhere but destruction. Always follow the Golden Ruel; " Do unto others what you like them to do unto you."
2006-11-23 07:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can never be a good wife and daughter in law...no matter how big a sacrifice you make....and trying to please everyone results in emotional hell as its never possible....
In my case I had only three members in my fami....ly Hubby and his parents....FIL was unhappy if I didnt do house hold chores....and happy if I did...but if he got happy he would praise me and blame MIL and Hubby for being lazy, MIL would in turn get angry on me...and would plot against me to make me and my husband fight....she was only happy if I supported her against FIL and would support me when I did anything wrong but unhappy when I did something and got good words from other family members...she was also unhappy if me and hubby were happy together..husband wanted that I keep his parents happy....and I couldnt talk about all this with him as he respected and loved his parents very much and discussing what all they were doing to me...would only turn him against me.....he would think that I am trying to break his family...parents wants that I keep their son happy....I didnt knew where I stood and what to do......am I a human being or just a machine to please others?...do I have an identity?...I got mad with the situation...
So better do what is right...Respect elders and do your duties but don't take wrong against you just to make others happy and dont lose your self respect...
Best of Luck
And remember those who dont want to be happy will never be happy...One day they will complain of less sugar in milk and if another you add more they will say...too sweet..
2006-11-23 06:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by 28March2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First understand the culture of the family , and respect elders , if you respect your in-laws your hudband feels happy and can do the same with your parents.
Always be in a position like give respect and take respect.
2006-11-23 03:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to categorize urself in whether a good wife or a good daughter in law or a good mom,be a good person as per ur definition and culture.
2006-11-23 04:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to change in order for your inlaws AND your husband to accept you, then it just isn't going to happen. I went through that too. It was always "well, if you'd only do this or that". I would do it, and then he or his father would be on to something else. They'll never be happy. Just divorce him. Do it now, before you waste 5 years of your life like I did.
2006-11-23 04:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good, loving, loyal, discreet, sympathetic, submissive, energetic, clean, understanding , responsive, enthusiastic ,
well dressed, well kept woman...Be the woman your husband thought he was marrying and you should be fine...
2006-11-23 03:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your mother-in-law and love her son.
All the best.
2006-11-23 03:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i am the best wife that i can be and that is all that matters, however my mother in law doesn't see it that way, so good luck
2006-11-23 03:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by princessnannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In day time support ur inlaws, be with them. u can be good DIL.
In night time, share everything with husband. u can be good WIFE
2006-11-23 07:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋