do u ever feel like..?

Question

im a real random grl, im smart, im good at art, im in a singing group, i m in debate im 5foot 7 at 14 and last year when i tasted on www.iqtest.com i got 141iq , ive done martial arts 4 8 years (jujitsu and ninjitsu) ive never had a boy friend yet every one says im pretty ,smart and funny i dont no why i feel so out of place. i have lots of guy and gurl frends but i still feel alone somtimes, can any one help me get over this or some advice???

Answer 1

I'm 13 and will be 14 in a month. And it's funny(not really, actually but...) becuase I felt the EXACT same way a month ago. And I just had to tell myself "Get over it. You're fine. Don't question yourself. No one else in the world is the same as you." Each person is cool in the weridest way. So, high five sister. You're not alone, and never will be. I even asked myself the same questions: I'm really pretty, how come no boys are flirting with me? How come other girls are so catty with me? Am I werid? The answer to the last one is yes, and it better to be that way. ^__^ Stay the way you are.
With luck and hugs, Tina aka Banana Flip.

Answer 2

dont think about it, honestly thats the best advice I can give. Enjoy high school while you can, because after its all up to you. thats a good IQ (mine was like 130 and I consider myself smart) You are only 14. Who cares if you've never had a boyfriend. Take this from an 18 year old guy. Boys will waste your time. I didnt have a girlfriend until I was 17 and a senior in high school and she just wasted my time. I should have been out feeding homeless people or doing something useful instead of infatuating myself with this girl. Sure it was fun, but ultimately looking back it was pointless.

Boys will just break your heart. Protect your heart, because when you finally get married if you don't protect your innocent heart, it will feel like youve gone through several divorces before you even get married. Develop your relationship with God ( I know I need to work on that one) and then you won't feel as alone and you'll be more comfortable with yourself. You are smart, pretty and funny because YOU say so and not anyone else.

Answer 3

13 -17 are difficult years because most teens are questioning themselves. There are so many changes occurring. So many new and difficult expectations being put on you.
You sound to me like a very normal, healthy young lady.

Sometimes people feel alone because they don't have the closeness with friends that they once had at home with family. Also, sometimes parents begin to think that since you are becoming so "grown up" that you don't need as much closeness as you did when you were little. The truth is, if your mom and dad hugged you frequently when you were a kid but they don't now, you are missing that. Go right up to them and hug first. Some fathers are a bit apprehensive about hugging teen aged daughters. That doesn't mean they have stopped loving you it just means he doesn't see as his "little girl" anymore. He might be afraid others will get the wrong idea if he was hugging you. Truth is teen aged girls who don't feel loved by dads are going to feel lonely. My daughter in law and her sister just grabbed their dads arm because he was bashful about hugging them and he would put an arm on their shoulders.

If that is the issue with either mom or dad, just tell them, "You used to hug me once in awhile, I think it would be nice if you would still do that now and then."

If it is the friends who make you feel lonely, I reckon you will just have to be patient and work on that. I know, most teens hate to hear the word, patient. But hang in there. Maybe your busy life with all your activities is preventing you from hanging out with your friends like the other kids do. But, your activities are what help you be such a unique person.
Hang in there. It will get better......

Answer 4

You are very self-aware and precocious, in other words not an average person. There is so much peer pressure during your teens to fit in, and the fact that you do have friends means you know how to get along with people. Peer pressure will lessen after you leave your teens, and you will come into contact with more mature people who can relate to your level of maturity. Until then, it sounds like you're coping very well. It's not abnormal for you to feel out of place sometimes, because you're way ahead of the crowd. As far as boyfriends go, there is that peer pressure again to hook up. Don't give in, wait for someone that's at your level, which may happen later at college. There's a bigger world out there which you'll encounter when you're older, and then you'll feel less out of place. But you're a unique individual, and so you'll always feel a little bit out of place. I know because I feel it even now at middle age sometimes.

Answer 5

Pain is a strange thing. Burning a finger or stubbing a toe can hurt all night, but when I shattered my wrist into 20 pieces (bones sticking out), I didn't feel anything at all. I guess I was just into "operation mode," and I realized that pain would be a disability in getting necessary medical help. I do not think the worst physical pain can come close to the mental anguish many of us have suffered. Merry Christmas, and all the best to you and your loved ones. And be careful!

Answer 6

Well,

You're at a really tough age... I remember how hard it was for me... I was tall, great bod, extremely intelligent, great grades, bunch of girls wanted me... etc... and I often felt out of place and alone - even with my best friends.

I suspect that everyone feels out of place at times... I certainly do, and I've been around a while... and everyone feels alone sometimes.

I know that doesn't really help fix how you feel, but its important to know that you're not alone in all this - however it may feel at times.

I also know that sometimes its hard to listen to other people say things about you that are positive, but that you might not feel are true yourself. So you end up with a feeling of being out of place, and just because you have lots of friends doesn't mean you shouldn't feel alone at times.

Your feelings are valid, remember that. No one should ever tell you that how you feel is wrong, because they're YOUR feelings, not theirs after all.

Since all this is pretty normal for everyone at one time or another, and even more so as a teen ager, when life is often really painful, I'm not sure I can help you get over it...

I can tell you that it does get easier as you grow older, not that that helps you now.

I can suggest that there are ways to maybe make it less painful. Talk to people you REALLY trust about how you feel sometimes. I suspect you'll find that they feel the same way, especially some of your friends if they're being HONEST with you... which is why you need to really trust that they'll be straight with you.

Just because you are smart, talented, pretty and funny doesn't mean YOU feel that way...

And just because you have lots of friends doesn't mean you can't feel alone... sometimes you can feel totally alone in a crowd...

Talk to others about how you feel, friends, relatives, teachers, whatever, they may be able to share their experiences, and perhaps ease some of the pain you're feeling, or at listen to you... which sometimes makes me feel better.

And this is very important - if you have these feelings and they drag out for days or weeks at a time - talk to a parent or teacher or some trusted adult because you may need to see a doctor about some sort of medication (chemical imbalances). It happens to a lot of people.

Good luck and take care,

-dh

Answer 7

Don't get to out of sorts. At 14 years of age you have the whole world ahead of you> I don't mean to sound like an old poop< either. I like what your doing. Martial arts are a disipline. and you have things pretty well in control. Paitience is the key to everything at your time of life. Good things come to those who are willing to wait, and decide> with good judgement and sound thinking. I am 68 years old and have made many mistakes. I have also made some good calls. With age will come wisdom
Speek to your God, Or Allah, or The maker?

Answer 8

don't worry, lots of girls go through this, you are most likely what they call a late bloomer, you'll end up the best of all. Stay patient, there is a boy that has a crush on you, there always is, he just has to gets the balls to talk to you. Maybe you should try some new things, new hobbies, go to some parties, liven up a little, get some new close and a new hair style.

Answer 9

What you feel about yourself is the reason...When you say all these virtues of yours, you consider yourself to be good..and you act perfect in front of others..When "others" sees you, they either despise you for being perfect or they adore..you..
SO..you want to mix with everyone, just do it..They might be reluctant at first..but will soon be ok...

Answer 10

What que belt are you?

I take Gojo Ryu. Traditionaly Okanawin Karate.