2006-11-22 18:48:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My experience is that when str8 guys that I am friends with find out I am gay they are no longer interested in being my friend. For some reason str8 guys think that just because you are gay that you are interested (sexually) in any other guy that walks the face of the earth. I for one have to be sexually attracted to a guy before I am interested in them that way and it doesn't matter if they are gay or str8 there has to be an attraction for me to be able to do anything with them. I guess I wouldn't make a very good hustler! *hugs* JAC<
2006-11-22 20:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it does change it should change for the better. If your friend is a true friend then it should not make such as big deal. There will be little changes like maybe no longer suggesting you should go out with this girl they know. The fact of the matter is it should not be a dramatic change for the worst if that person really is your friend.
2006-11-23 02:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by campkiwago 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes with time, and as you reveal new things about yourself. But not all of it is bad.
When I came out as trans to my friends, there was definately a change in how we got along. My not so close friends found excuses to drift away, and my close friends stuck by me - but things were a bit different.
Although, for all the similarities, coming out as trans is a bit different than coming out as gay; for one thing, you're hoping for a specific change when you tell friends who've known you as a guy that you prefer to be seen as a girl (or vice versa)... whereas when you come out as gay, you tend to hope they *don't* make that kind of change.
2006-11-23 03:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it does, if it is a close friend. You must let them have their space to think and maybe the friendship will change for the better and maybe it won't
2006-11-23 02:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Namaste 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it changes, but the drastic change is what you have to watch out for, if you tell your best friend or friend or whoever, you have to do it in a way that when they're with you, they're not thinking that you want to screw them, well unless you really do, if that person is your true friend it won't be a drastic change, after a few days, its always takes a few days for them to think about the situation and they have to decide weather or not it changes them, when i came out to my friend it changed, not because i was gay, but because i hadn't told him, he felt deceived because i know everything about him i guess because he had told me, but it does change, but why be someone you're not??? thats what you need to think about, if they don't want to be around the REAL YOU then why do you want to be around them anyway??? unless you're sexually attracted to them? and sometimes we're attracted to people but don't want to admitt it or fail to see it plainly. The sooner you come out the better, GET IT OVER WITH, and you will feel so much better later, trust me and its well worth it.
2006-11-23 04:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I came out to my best friend, yeah she needed time to think about it. I was sure that she would hate me forever but she told me that she didnt really know what to think yet, but she was glad that I trusted her enough to tell her. It took her a week to be able to look me in the eyes.
Obviously it could have been worse. But ultimatly if you are ready to come out (to anyone, not just a friend) you have to accept the idea that not everyone will take it well. Some people will hate you. But you have to be yourself despite that :)
2006-11-23 02:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jen M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some do some don't. The so called friends who deserted me were obviously not my friends (hope you had a good life).
The ones who stood by me (txs guys n gals) are my true friends and our friendship only got stronger.
2006-11-23 10:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Paulo.GZ. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes! I came out to my best friend in High School... We use to do alot together, going to TJ and partying... I came out to him and things dropped off really fast. It was just not comfortable anymore... For both of us.
Gregory
2006-11-23 03:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything, coming out to my friends brought us closer. But then, I have always been careful to select friends who were intelligent, kind, and open-minded.
2006-11-23 04:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of mine did but I have some really cool friends. If you have actually good friends who will accept you for who you are, then it shouldn't.
2006-11-23 04:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋