I had a friend who died 3 years ago. We met each other seven years ago. I met her at the secondary school where we studied. she had been sufferd alot of having cancer..one day she had a blood analysis, she called me and her voice was throaty, so I couldn't understand any word she was saying to me. Then I realized that she was very happy and crying at the same time because the doctor told her that she was getting better and there is a hope in the few coming months she would be recovered. She couldn't believe that.
After that call, I went to her family's house to wait for her. While we were waiting, someone called her father and told him that his daughter had a dire accident and she passed away right after the accident. Everybody got shocked. At that moment, I even forgot how to cry. I did not talk or cry. I just remembered my friend's feelings and the words she was telling me on the phone before she died. I had already known that I lost her forever and she would not come back to my life. I did not even think that she would leave me alone after the all past years that we had spent together. I had been waiting for years to find an honest friend like her and finally the death took her away from us in a moment.
2006-11-22 18:40:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't know how to deal with it
2006-11-22 18:46:45 · update #1
i put a sign on my ceiling that reads, "this, too, shall pass." every morning when i wake up its the first thing i see upon opening my eyes. every night when i fall asleep i close my eyes with that affirmation.
when i have reached a different place in my life, i will remove it but right now i need the reminder that there are years of lean and years of fat.
your friend's memory will always be a part of you and some part of that will always cause you pain (15 years since my father died and not a day goes by that my heart doesn't flutter a little in the hurt of his loss). but you want to maintain her memory with the most happiness and joy in your heart. you may hurt over her loss for the rest of your life but you can also smile when you remember what you shared. one day, hopefully, the smiles will outnumber the frowns.
2006-11-22 19:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Informer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you lost your friend. Sometimes words can never explain to us why some things happen. The phrase "everything happens for a reason" I think is a useless one. Even if there is reason for everything....sometimes we can't understand it. All we can do is live on for the loved ones that have passed on. That's what your friend would have wanted for you. She would want you to trust other people and to live a life full of hope. I know it's hard. I have lost quite a few friends and it's never easy but just have faith and know that everything will be alright. It just takes time. I hope this helps you. I'll pray for you.
2006-11-23 02:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by CuriosityKilledtheCat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that it is difficult time for you, but keep focussing on your hobby,job, or what else give you satisfaction.There are so many others person, who can be a good friend, or mising there loved ones.This is how life works,Try to get your self busy,otherwise continue thinking about the same, will just kill your time and energy, which could have utilized by something productive you want to give to your family,your self, nations.Don't keep repeating the thoughts or things which makes you remeber and pull in to same thing, Once you get control, you will be satisfied and pleased to remember your friends nice memories. Best of Luck
2006-11-23 02:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by yjph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a sad story life isn't always fair trusting people is tough when you lose some one close who you opened up and shared the most importent things in your lives but i am sure that she would want you to do your best to find Some Good Friends it will be tough but you will make it it takes time
2006-11-23 02:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O my word I am so sorry. How horrible to go through something like that. I couldn't imagine. That makes me want to cry right now.
2006-11-23 02:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sorrowful incident. Well, life continues with its ups and downs. Continue with others who are fortunate to live like u.
2006-11-23 02:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by mikejolyemsegun2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, that is so sad, that made my cry, n-e ways.......you just need time. when you think about it , it wansnt that long ago. ok bye
2006-11-23 03:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋