Who should come first My two Boys or my Wife's secret baby she lied to me about?

Question

When my wife and i got married My 2 boys were 1 year olds.& 2 months ago she told me that before she met me she had a baby and let her aunt adopt it Then her aunt fell ill...So now my wife is regaining custody of her son who is 3 1/2 ..Question>>while I was at work the kid was bit by one of My two Dobermans the bite was .not severe but required stitches. My wifes kid has hit/slapped Troy & Mike (the dogs) and was told never to ever do that again And I told my wife to NEVER EVER leave her kid/boy alone with my boys while i'm at WORK..
For the protection of...... Troy& Mike .And my wife fail to listen after she agreed to it.
After the biting incident my wife and i agreed that it was a valuable lesson for the kid to never hit helpless animals
Now she wants me to get rid of my boys(that will never happen) ....She has the nerve to ask me to get rid of my boys after she lied to me about having a secret child.....Should i get rid of my wife.. Or will she relize how selfish she is????

Please Note........My wife lied about Ever having a baby before we got married....And now i have instant child that she popped on me without WARNING....And i accepted the situation Now my cold hearted wife wants me to choose between her or my innocent dogs How dare she ask me to do such a thing

ALSO>>The kid was hitting Troy and that is when he (my wife's kid) got bit Troy could have easily killed the abusive child but he gave him a warning ....
ALL ANIMALS DESERVE RESPECT AND NOT JUST THE HUMAN ANIMAL
My dogs lives are just as important than a humans life and anyone who thinks not is very cold&self centered person.

Answer 1

You are very Amazing and smart and more forgiving than your wife deserved .....Troy&Mike were being abused by a violent child

Anyone who would ask you to get rid of part of your family Exspecialy after you forgave her sick twisted past secrets

Dump the liar ...you deserve better

Answer 2

The little boy is a child and really and truly doesnt know any better until the parent teches them no to hit animals. On the other hand you should respect where shes coming from because it could have been a lot worse then the boy getting bit by your dog. Granted she should have told you the truth but theres probably a reason why she didnt and u need to understand that two Dobermans around a child that they arent used to is an accident waiting to happen.

U dont need to get rid of the dogs but keep them outside or something. When you married her u married everything that came along with her, which means even her "secret child".

Answer 3

your marraige is in serious trouble here!
You have two choices
1. Accept she lied and get on with it. The life of a child is more precious than any animal. You are resenting the child because your wife lied and it's obvious you haven't any children yourself, as a parent you would understand this.
2. Take the dogs and leave.
Please don't think i am having a go at you. It's wrong that she lied to you and it's done now. How can a marraige survive on lies? Once the dogs have bitten they WILL do it again, it's their instonct and its very difficult for the boy not to be left alone with the dogs even for a second.
Good luck in what you decide x

Answer 4

Well your in a bad situation. The kid will probillay be scared of the dog forever. I know how dogs can be they freak out on things and people they don't know. I got 1 dog a Akita and 5 kids here she is fine with our kids didn't like the baby at first was scred and ran away from him, but has got use to him. Now she follows him around and looks for food and they are best buds. But she gets crazy around other kids, people.She don't like chicks very much but handles guys. So I have to put her up and just not let her have any contact with other people maybe you will have to do that with your while your not home. But with your wife not being honest about a kid she might need some help.

Answer 5

What would make you more happy are wife who loves you or the dogs not kids.
Your wife should always come first befor any pets.
So you have an instant famliy and she lied but all she is doing is what she thinks is best for her kid and if you dogs would bite a kid you really should get rid of them as you will find your self in a world of truble if they bite another kid whie out and about.
Get over it mate and you stopp being so selfish about two pets.

Answer 6

Whoo, that's a bunch of stuff!
1- Yes, never leave kids alone with dogs. Dogs are DOGS, not humans.
2- I would never equate the value of a dog's life with that of a human. See #1. I love my Dog chum dearly but any child's life is worth far more than that of my dog. If you hold the value of your dogs more than your wife, you're definitely sending her a loud and clear message of the (lack of) esteem in which you hold your bride. How selfish SHE is???
3- "Bite was not severe but required stitches." W.T.F.???
4- I got really confused there when you said you had 2 boys. But you don't. You have two DOGS. See #1.
My answer to your question? The baby. And if you can find a King Solomon-esque solution to this, that'd be GREAT.

Amigo, I'm sure you're not going to like either my answer or the majority of the ones you're going to get.
If you ask me, which you did not, you and your wife need to get some help to identify and rearrange your priorities.

Answer 7

i dont in any way condone wot your dogs did as it could have turned out far worse but on the other hand,the boy should not have provoked the dogs by hitting and slapping them,in a way its like us,if we was hit or slapped be it playful or otherwise there would come a time when we would scream hey enuff is enuff im fed up of being bit,hit or slapped..stop!!!..but dogs cant say that so they resort to other measures which i must stress i dont agree with,shes silly leaving small kids alone with dogs in the 1st place iv always had dogs and even tho they are jus yorkies and a greyhound that i have my neices and nephews no not 2 provoke them in any way and if they do they will get hurt tho i no my dogs are very placid but u cant take the chance even with small dogs,shes silly to demand u get rid of ur dogs all that needs to happen is 4 both of u 2 sit down with the child and stress how important it is not to aggrivate the dogs coz id b pissed off if i was one of your dogs n my tail was being yanked..then get to the bottom of this secret child business if she expects u 2 accept another child after this long she needs 2 accept your dogs and if she dont then u have 2 fink is it all worth it..the dogs arent 2 blame here, YOUR NOT THE ONE AT FAULT,its hard 2 bond with a child whos not urs she needs to teach the kid manners and b aware of a dogs personal space, good luck hun n plz DONT get rid of ur normally placid dogs 4 the sake of a woman who didnt have the decency 2 chat to u years bk about her child xxx

Answer 8

O, being a mother, I sent my cat to my mother so that both my son and my pet would not be hurted, and I decided that I would not adopt any cats or dogs until my son knew how to get well along with them. Man! dont be so defensive before a mother who now is standing before her child. U'd better think as a mother does, then go back to yourself to do choice. Becaue you are the husband! I think you 'd have better choice to do right to your wife, your 2 Boys and that little&innocent kid.
And, be quiet down, be soft, do you want to make priority for your boys or to vent your anger since you had put so much than kind words on your wife?
Sorry if I offended...

Answer 9

Personally, I wouldn't have a kid around any dog that bites..I know you say pretty much it's the kids fault..Maybe..but..I had a few dogs when I was growing up and they didn't bite..my little brother used to pull their tails,ride them like they were horses..chase them etc..etc..
And never did one of them bite..most dogs that are well trained go the other direction when they see a small child coming at them that has been mean to them..
So keep the dogs or find them new homes..I don't think it will matter one way or the other when it comes to your relationship..
You guys have a huge problem and it really don't have anything to do with the dogs..
Your wife married you and failed to tell you about her child!! " SMACK" I bet thats what it felt like when you found out..To start a marriage with such a big deception..not a good sign! Can you move on and trust her agian??
I think unless you can find a way to except her deception and her child and to also be able to trust her agian your marriage is dommed!
I bet you guys have been fighting over anything and everything..and the only breathing things is the house besides you and your wife is her kid and like you said your kids and they are prime targets for both of your frustrations..
Your going to haft to figure this one out only you know what you can or will put up with!
I would never usually pick an animal over a human but in this case If it was me i'd haft to say get rid of the wife...
In the mean time until you decide what you are doing make sure that child isn't around your kids(dogs)..The child is only 3 and at that age they don't realize the consequenses of their actions!!
Gosh..I don't know what else to say but Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Which one u love the most? Dogs vs Wife
She is wrong about the lie. Keep the dogs outside the house or away from the kid. I think the dogs are jealous. Let the kid play with the dogs when u r around them. Let them get use to each others and see what will happen.

Answer 11

Wow! I love dogs, don't get me wrong, but the dogs are not prepared to be around children! What would you do if the child was yours? How mad or upset would you be at your dog? If the state knew about the dog biting the child, they could destroy it. Do you love your wife? She was wrong in not telling you about her child, but the bottom line is, if you truly love your wife, it shouldn't matter. For gosh sakes, the child has only been on this earth for a little over 3 years! He didn't ask to be born, it's not his fault. The dogs are probably intriguing to him, not fair for the little guy to get ate up for liking puppies!! Exactly who is being selfish here? The little boys personality is being formed right now, where's your humanity for the child? Can't you love your dogs, but let them know they can't hurt the child? Be proud of your wife for finally "owning" up to her responsibility. I truly hope everything works out..