help!! i'm going to cheat!!?

Question

i'm married and a few months ago i realised that my husband has the potential to cheat...i forgave him? but i'm now texting a guy i met thru a friend every night, i want to have a sexual relationship with him. He is a basketball player compared to my husbadn who looks frail and skinny...i know it's wrong since i'm married but it feels good to have attention from another guy, my husband is wierd, he is not into sex, iam i love having sex every night but he is always tired...i'm on the verge of cheating and i know it's wrong but it feels right, waht should i do? is something wrong with me? can someone give me a sincere answer?

Answer 1

Confess this grave error in judgement to your husband and beg of him his forgivness! How dare you think of violating your marital vows. If your husband does not wish to have relations that is his right! Your only purpose is to serve and obey him.

Answer 2

DO NOT CHEAT. My wife of over 8 years just left me. She had an affair with one of her co-workers. It's been over a month, and it is still tearing me up inside. If you do cheat, you husband will never trust or have anymore respect for you. Remember, just because the grass is greener now, doesn't mean it's going to be later in the future. This basketball guy might give you the sex now, but he might not want to after a couple of years. I know that finding someone else starts making everything work again, but think about what your doing, if you do cheat, your going to destroy everything that you both have work so hard on. I don't know your husband, but he most of at one point been a great man, or you won't of married him. Remember that, family is forever and Friends come and go. DON"T let this new man come between your family. One other thing. If you cheat on your husband with this guy, remember that he will not forget that you cheated on your husband to be with him. He will always remember that, and question you every time you go out with your friends, or another man. Just my opinion.

Answer 3

Um... ok your husband has the potential to cheat and you forgave him? Did he in fact cheat? you know what it doesn't matter...

It is never... NEVER ok to go looking for answers outside your relationship, your problem is in your relationship with your husband. You gotta have the stones to stop talking and texting the basketball player, and talk to your husband about the aspects of your relationship that require work.

Your husband may not be weird... his level of sexual energy may just be lower than yours, and there are other things that may be going on that are draining him of his sexual energy, such as stress, depression, pressures at work or at home.

Trust me, do not cheat, if you do then you have done somthing very wrong to your husband and he doesn't deserve it.

You say that it feels good to get attention from another man, that is the grass is greener syndrome, this other guy isn't better than your husband, he probably isn't as good either, he is just different. Be mature enough to stay in your marriage and give it a chance to be fixed rather than just bail at the first guy who comes along when things aren't going so well.

Have an open and honest conversation about what is going on, and how you as a couple can fix your problem, see a therapist if you have to, but... and I cannot stress this enough.... DO NOT TALK TO OR CONTACT THE OTHER GUY AGAIN. You cannot heal your marriage with him around, it is an uneeded distraction.

Good Luck, and I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Okay - you made a promise. Turn that phone off for a couple weeks. Get your head straight. After you do this - how will you feel about yourself as a cheat and a liar (lied about the promise).
How will you feel knowing that you did't really bother to try to mend your marriage. Does your husband potentially doing something wrong make you feel so bad that you think it is okay to make another person feel so bad. Are you prepared to give up everything you have with your husband. Sure attention is nice but attention from the right place would be nicer.

Answer 5

If youre about to cheat that just means that you dont really love your husband,if you think there could be more than sex with that guy than go for it but get divorce.Your husband cheated on you but hes too tired to have sex with his wife, dont you think there is something wrong? Besides once someone cheats especially in a marriage thing are bound to be down hill from there,you lose the trust and things aren't the same nomore.If you think that guy is or could be someone you would want to be with for the rest of your life, go with him, dont let love pass you by.*

Answer 6

The most sincere answer l can give you is DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!! If you are married you should not be texting another guy all the time and certainly not thinking about having sex with this other man. If you feel your marriage is not worth the effort please leave your husband, do not cheat on him. How would you feel if it happened to you, trust me it is the worst feeling in the world. Just leave him or you will live to regret it one day.

Answer 7

First let me say that no-one is perfect. no-one can ever give anyone the perfect answer to their question unless they themselves are in that person's head. Yet, I can however suggest that you take a moment and remember that you made a commitment with this guy. It's understandable that you could justify cheating on him. And in today society no-one will argue with you. However, Cheating on him will not help your commitment, nor will it change the past. It would be wise if you chose to explain to your husband that he need to step up. Being more creative helps alot. try role playing it should help. Get into his head. There has to be something that will arouse him. If your marriage is truly worth it to you. you will fight for it. You may want to start by removing any male friend who would approach you in that way.

Answer 8

Surely you married this guy cos you loved him? so why don't you tell him he no longer turns you on and you want to separate for a while, that way you can go sow your wild oats and he need never know. Of course you run the risk that your husband will meet someone else, and the basketballer will get sick of you and go on to another, then there's a divorce pending. I think you should stop and take a look at all those people who you're going to hurt by going with this guy, and the guilt you'll feel after.

Answer 9

Once your integrity is compromised, you are finished. It takes a profound change in self that is real & not feigned that MIGHT allow the relationship to continue. So if your feelings are that strong for this other guy then get a divorce. Don't understand how you can say that you love your husband, but also want to give yourself to another man. Were's the love in that statement?

Answer 10

You have to be honest with your husband and tell him how serious the situation with the sex is getting. It will be up to him to either leave or step up to the plate. It is a hard thing when your spouse doesn't have the same drive you do, I have been there. I have found though that if i walk into something that I know is wrong before I start I usually regret it afterwards.

Answer 11

Well, don't do it. If you feel this way now, how bad do you think you will feel after you do it? If you have to ask, just don't do it.

And if you feel that you and your husband aren't sexually compatible (on the same time schedule), try getting to the bottom of things and ask him why. Share with him your attraction to him (you should be attracted to him enough to be married and want to have sex with him) and to having sex with him and see if that helps him share his side of things with you. Offer to try new things between the sheets. See how much fun you could have if you both compromise and come together. Talk things through but don't let it get heated. That could spread things further apart. Try to get things improving. Good luck! Don't cheat!