I dated a stud almost ten years ago. I was curious about the studs. I'm not gay. I don't even consider myself bisexual but I know everyone will disagree because of my past experience with her. She was a great friend and a good person. I have no regrets but I love my "straight" life/privileges. I am attracted to men. I would never consider a relationship with a woman other than her. She told me she still loves me and I love her too as an individual. I'm so confused because I'm not "gay" this is not my problem. She is really a gay activist. I am not concerned with all of that. I don't think gays should marry. I don't know how we can have a love/relationship. I can't have my son apart this. His life would be torn apart two fold because he's biracial and his mommy is with a mommy. Her teen daughter only knows that craziness. I was married to my son's father and I can't imagine how he'd feel, on top of that I'm apart of the "gay craze" not to mention my family!!!
2006-11-22 16:48:50 · 4 answers · asked by Enchanted Crystal 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
WRT the actual question... what "lifestyle" are you talking about? Sure, there's various subcultures in the gay community, but none of it is like some mandatory part of being gay, gay-friendly, bi-curious or any other involvement you may have.
You are who you are. As long as you're hurting no one else, be yourself. If that brings you closer to her, then so be it; if that pulls you away from her, my heart goes out to both of you for the pain and confusion it may cause, but it's also something that can't be helped.
It's a shame, though, that you have to think about how this would affect your son. Not because you have to think about his welfare - that's what any good parent does; but it's sad that protecting him has to include this. It shouldn't matter that his mom and dad came from different ethnic backgrounds or whether his mom is dating a man or another woman.
Unfortunately, for too many people it does seem to matter :(
2006-11-22 17:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry , but I do not understand your question. When you say "obvious gay", do you mean someone who walks, talks and dresses gay?? OR WHAT?
AND , I do not know what you meen with "the lifestyle".
I am openly gay, and live a normal life. I do not know what you mean with a gay lifestyle? I do what my straight and gay friends do, there is nonthing in our lifestyles that identify us as either gay or straight.
ZM I stupid? or do I just miss something here.
2006-11-22 16:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME! You ARE NOT GAY!! You do NOT have to adopt the whole twisted lifestyle!
I'd pray for Jesus to help me to overcome this whole thing!
You might laugh; but his power got me OFF my 2 packs-per day of Newports! NO regrets!
Oh yeah! I have my days of "missing" them! But Jesus takes me away every time!
Please! I'm NOT a preacher! I just have had many life experiences that I thought may help you!
2006-11-22 16:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wo it's so much confusion coming through this person in this question i refuse to even try to make sense of it!
2006-11-22 16:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by qdeezy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋