They won't come here to see him. Should I be generous and say its ok? Or should I expect him to stay away from his ex?
2006-11-22 16:40:37 · 10 answers · asked by debbie2243 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
Depends on the ex. When my children were smaller, I would send meals to my ex, because he could not cook and I wanted my children to eat well at their visitations. Now...he is deceased, I am remarried. Although I am a nice person, she is VERY VERY VERY nasty...I would be upset, highly upset, were he to spend holidays with her. His AND mine have chosen to be with us, thank goodness, so I do NOT have to deal with her (she is constantly touching him and trying him). Like I said, depends on the ex and the circumstances involved. :( Sorry I am not more help. BUT....I would say that if they will not come here (as the step-children my hubby raised will not because their mama tells tales that are untrue)....I have to be honest and say that I would say NO... Stay here or go there and stay there, you cannot have it both ways, baby! If the kids don't think enough of ME to visit just briefly, then NO. Obviously the ex has done as this one has done....run off at the mouth and told lies that made you a curse to the children. 'Course, you can take a quarter and my opinion and still can't make a phone call. lol P.S....if they are grown then, at this point, it is not even a FUNCTION of the ex's tales...it is the grown children who are being foolish and I would not stand for it, myself. AND....I am a nice person, despite what I have said. But I am in the same spot myself so I can feel for you...and put myself where you are.
2006-11-22 17:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since his children are grown, and their father has started a new life with you, they(meaning the children) should come to their father's house to spend time with him. They are no longer an exclusive family unit. You are now included in the family unit, whether they like it or not. I see this as more of a problem with the grown children.
2006-11-22 20:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would understand going to see his kids but I don't think it is neccessary to spend holidays with an ex. My ex-husband continually tries to spend holidays with me, using the kids as an excuse. Everytime I have let him come over he causes a big scene trying to get back with me. Just watch out.
2006-11-22 16:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by bellagirl1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay. Let him go. There is no chance he will go back to his ex. Since the children are grown up, they alerady have strong attachments and would perhaps want their parents only. YOur question itself shows that you are a beautiful and kind-hearted lady. Congratulations for being such a rare human being!
2006-11-22 16:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is funny that this is a question, my ex always shows up at some point in the day - and really I can't tell you exactly why but go figure, she is out of town on a holiday?
2006-11-22 16:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by alsballoondepot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes be generous, he loves his children not his ex .... he's just trying to make life a little less dysfunctional. Speaking from Experience. Being that guy. I love my daughter but try to avoid contact with her mother but sometimes it is inevitable. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
2006-11-22 16:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rob m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is there for his kids he should go. maybe he can alternate for Christmas he will spend the hole time with you. Next year hole Thanksgiving with you and part of Christmas with them
2006-11-22 17:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean if there isnt any problems with u and the i would go WITH him. or suggest they come to your home and if u wasnt invited thats just rude and i would make him stay home.
2006-11-22 16:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why they can't all come to YOU as long as there aren't any "issues".
2006-11-22 16:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends if he is taking you along.if he doesnt then i would be mad.
2006-11-22 16:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by stealthmodel17404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋