When my wife and i got married My 2 boys were 1 year olds.& 2 months ago she told me that before she met me she had a baby and let her aunt adopt it Then her aunt fell ill...So now my wife is regaining custody of her son who is 3 1/2 ..Question>>while I was at work the kid was bit by one of My two Dobermans the bite was not severe but required stitches. My wifes kid has hit/slapped Troy & Mike (the dogs) and was told never to ever do that again And I told my wife to NEVER EVER leave her kid/boy alone with my boys while i'm at WORK..
For the protection of...... Troy& Mike .And my wife fail to listen after she agreed to it.
After the biting incident my wife and i agreed that it was a valuable lesson for the kid to never hit helpless animals
Now she wants me to get rid of my boys(that will never happen) ....She has the nerve to ask me to get rid of my boys after she lied to me about having a secret child.....Should i get rid of my wife.. Or will she relize how selfish she is????
2006-11-22 16:30:22 · 27 answers · asked by Buda B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be nice to her kid afterall you are his step father now. if you love her love her kid . As for yourr BOYS they have one master and that is you. Give them anti rabies shots.tell her your boys are your house guards and you need them for your protections.
2006-11-22 16:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i am getting this right and your Boys.....as you put it are your two dogs (dobermans) which have just biten your wifes 3 yr old child at which he required stiches. I say your wife has a right to ask you to get rid of them..... but if you really feel your dogs are more important than your wife and her son then you should leave. On another note giving up a child for adoption is a very difficult thing to go through and majority of people who do give up children live with a guilt for the rest of their lives. Your wife probably felt guilty about the adoption and that is why chose not to tell you. Don't hold it against her as she could really do with your support at a time like this.
Hope you see whats really important....Good Luck
2006-11-22 16:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All four of them are in your life get over it. You should not have the nerve to make her choose between your wife, her child and your dogs and you. The fact is that child is in your life whether you want it or not. Besides the baby was before you met her. When you married her you accepted ALL responsibilities. She doesn't sound like the only one being selfish. That is plain and simple to see. If this is supposed to be a serious question there is your answer. Oh and one more thing. Your boys are not the main priority. If they bite maybe she is right. \ Get over yourself and find out how to stop the biting. Keep your dogs away from the child by either keeping them where they and he cannot get to each other. Wow, if you leave over a dog your relationship was never important in the first place. I love my animals but there is no question who comes first in my life and that is my family. Find another home for them. Ones who do not have children.
2006-11-22 16:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The boy is just a child. Yes your wife SHOULD NOT have lied to you about having a baby, that was a big mistake, but considering leaving your spouse for two dogs is selfish, not the other way around. You dont realize what its like to be a mother. You should both put work into keeping the boy and your boys separated when youre at work. And ultimatum is not the solution.
2006-11-22 16:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!! In order to be considered a sex offender you have to be over the age of 18 and have sex with a minor, but in most states if you are 18 and your partners age is within 2-3 years of yours it is not considered anything. Do not let him scare you into having an abortion, maybe he is not ready to have another child, which is understandable at his age. If you are ready to have this child and care for it, then it is your decision to make. I am sure you know how hard it is to raise a child. There are many 16 year olds that can be excellent mothers. Do not let others discourage you, but you definetly should talk with your parents or others you are close to. Good luck.
2016-03-14 05:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright. Sounds like a pickle for you right? Nope.
You need to understand that you need to address your family seperation desires. Man, if you want to continue to be the man in the relationship and head up the household as I believe you want to ( (acknowledged) you may have a bit of a pissed attitude about it)
You do not need to ask for the protection of your boys, but for the entire family. Admit that you had children when you got married and that you were asking her to take on a lot when that happened. Find out the reason(s) that she didn't/ wasn't able to tell you about her child.
Agreed. You shouldn't have to even give the courtesy of time to the question of 'getting rid of your boys' so lets move away from there. Address the obvious problem of you and your wife being open, honest, and forgiving with each other.
2006-11-22 16:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep them separate until the human child gets older and doesn't look at the dogs as toys and the dogs won't look at the child like a squeeky toy. If the dogs bite the kid again then you need to get rid of them or someone will probably call the pound to take the "dangerous" animals away from you. Figure out your priorities. They should be - GOD first, wife, child, dogs. If this is not the order of your priorities then I would suggest talking to a preacher at a church or a marriage counselor. Sounds like your upset about the child. Obviously the child is going to be there, so either you get used to having this child around or you get out of the marriage.
2006-11-22 16:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by december 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a dog lover but I tell you if my dogs bit someone that lived in my home especially a child any ones child the dogs would have to go. You are the most selfish excuse for a person that I've ever heard of. A total waste of skin. You and your dogs should be trained better.
2006-11-22 16:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but with that kind of an attitude towards the situation no matter who you decide to keep - your marriage is headed down the toilet.
You are all better off if you choose the dogs. Granted she shouldn't have left a child alone with the dogs but any woman & child deserve more respect than you've shown here.
2006-11-22 16:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzbutt_jr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave her she would be better off with out you anyway
Any animal that will attack a child not matter what the circumstances should be put to sleep. If they will attack just one time they will do it again and the next time you may not get off so lucky as the dog could have killed the child...It happens way too often and then you will be held responsible for the dogs actions
2006-11-22 16:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by The gr8t alien 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
omg, u really need to grow up alot, and quit being some damn stupid, hell i would ditch u. if some dogs bit my child, u better beleive they would be gone with you or without u. and u not supporting her decision for her to get her child back is selfish, and ur worried about some dogs.. and hes 3 y/o. This is her child, and should be more of a priority than some damn dogs.. and decent human being would not put animals before children..that need care, thats just cold.
2006-11-22 17:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋