I love and adore my best friend. She is a beautiful person and is amazing at everything she does. We both sing and write. We are both top notch in those fields. But she is always better. I'm not seeking to finally be better, but it gets very disheartening when I'm constantly compared to her and I fall short. I'm just very tired of people not seeing how different we are. I'm also tired of being called the mini-verson of her. What do I do without seeming pretentious or losing her/myself in the process?
2006-11-22 16:26:40 · 11 answers · asked by hannahbash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow. Girl that is the greatest compliment anyone could ever pay you. Really it is. Think about it. You must be one amazing package. And let me elaborate. Those great qualities you see in her are in you. I challenge you. Bring them out and you will surpass her Have fun. Thank you. Another good thing added to my day. You!
2006-11-22 16:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're friends with her because she's kind to you and vice-versa. The comparisons probably come from other outsiders, am I right? Well, they are being petty and shallow. The important thing is, your friend is not trying to best you. It's probably actually very hard for her to feel like she's setting a high standard that others are expected to live up to. I've been told that being up on a pedestal is no fun. Just forget about what others are saying, and concentrate on preserving your friendship.
2006-11-22 16:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Someone who cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do we have the same best friend?? :)
Solution: get more friends and this will dilute your feelings of not being as good as she is. So… if you can make some new friends that are NOT connected to your best friend, you can branch out without her. Don’t mix the two groups of people. Spend a little less time with your best friend.
You have a good heart… it’s a tough situation so hang in there.
2006-11-22 16:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well It seems as if your friend is more out there in the world then you are. Maybe you could tyr to be "out there" as well but in different ways. Or try doing things she wouldn't do. And if you hang out ALOT then try hanging with different people once and a while.
2006-11-22 16:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your pal certainly isnt extra suitable then you definately. you only ought to have some confidents. i be attentive to its problematical. yet you will benefit weight (usalully females whinge approximately having to plenty hehe) and you dont ought to instruct your self to everyone. end questioning she is extra suitable then you definately because of the fact extremely human beings cant be extra suitable then others. nicely except your a homicide or something. end being so jelouse. you dont must be.
2016-11-26 02:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aight, u need to find something to do that ur good at> U need to find ur ownthing to do and just u......i am also going through this and you need to think that even though people think this its not the friggen end of the world just pass it by and others will start to accecpt you for who you are
2006-11-22 16:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by ~!~kEwLiE~!~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something you really like and are good at and have her try and you will be better but you will just be having her do something you love to do!
2006-11-22 16:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell ur friend how u feel. mayb she can help u out. best friends always stick together don't they?
2006-11-22 16:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats my situation i have been best friends with karina since 3rd gradeand shes always been better at everything.shes always been the leader..ive always been the follower.shes like batman im like robin.shes like raven im like chelsea...well finally i got into cheerleading and i found something thats my own and now i can say i acomplished something withought being the follower.keep trying and look 4 something all your own
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2006-11-22 16:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and she'll understand hope that this works
2006-11-22 16:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋