i didnt tell my best friend i was gay she had to find out from some one else and now were not friends she act like one of those people u see on tv she thinks im in love with her now how cleshy is that
2006-11-22 16:24:37 · 10 answers · asked by atsecondchance 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I dont think you were in the wrong though if you were best friends shouldn't you have been honest? I also think that if you were really best friends with her she wouldn't have reacted so strongly to you being gay. She should have accepted it and still been your friend.
2006-11-22 16:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you were reluctant to tell her because you were afraid that she would act weird about it--just like she's doing now. Let her know that you still hope you can be friends, but it's in her hands. Then enjoy your time with your other friends and wait for her to come to you, if that's what she decides to do.
Don't get clingy or pressure her to get back to like you were before (since she supposedly thinks you're in love with her, she'll probably react badly to that). And don't bad mouth her to your other friends. Just be the same nice person you were before that she wanted for a friend, and hopefully she'll come to realize that you're the same person she always knew.
2006-11-23 00:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honesty is a very important part of a relationship. I had a former friend that was angry with me too when I came out. I had told another person in our close circle a few years ago, but waited about 3 years before I told him. He didn't like that fact that I hid my sexuality from him for years, but I was able to be honest with others. Try to talk to her about why you didn't tell her try to hold on to that friendship. Hopefully she'll calm down and not let that ruin the friendship permanently.
2006-11-23 00:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no YOUR NOT in the wrong because your sexual preference is your own business. and its a sensitive subject. It can make and break relationships. Trust I'm more of a tomboy type lesbian so i get stereotyped on the daily. Just judging by the way she reacted, shes no friend.. and an alleged best friend, far from it. She needs a reality check its 2006
2006-11-23 00:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by penick08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nitpick: It's "cliché."
But no, I don't think you were in the wrong there. The way she's acting (at least from what you describe) it's understandable why you didn't tell her.
2006-11-23 00:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need her, then. If she can't accept you for who you are, she's no use to you. You weren't wrong. Your sexuality should be private unless you choose to share it with someone.
2006-11-23 01:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong.... i think its your personal decision whom you want to tell or not!
get a new friend!
2006-11-23 00:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she can't accept you, shame on her
2006-11-23 00:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hats not a freind...but a fiend
2006-11-23 00:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no
2006-11-23 00:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋