Please tell me what is your most honest opinion of marriage?

Question

Are you up to it??

Answer 1

Been there done that....wouldnt do again_

Answer 2

I've been married for many years. Bad times, sure, but they all passed. Of course, I married a good one and I was wise enough to know what I wanted and that he
was a decent person (very loyal to his family) and then very loyal to our family. We are more happy now because we have gained much wisdom over the years and know how to treat each other with respect. Everyday we are thankful for each other. Everything one finds outside the marriage by cheating, those same energies could be put into the current marriage and making it the best. And, yes, the sex is even hotter with no kids still at home and much less stress.

Answer 3

I'm ready for marriage, but I don't think it's as "sacred" as everyone makes it out to be.

I think what's more important than marriage is having a healthy relationship. And I think people need to be more open and honest about what it REALLY takes to make a relationship and a marriage work.

I think if you get married, it should be for life. Only in extreme cases should divorce be considered, and I don't think adultery should be one of those cases.

People should live together like they are married first instead of jumping into it, not knowing what to expect.

I think many religious perspectives on marriage are outdated.

And I don't think marriage is a right or is it something that people should be expected to do.

(Fantastic question)

Answer 4

My answer may sound a little naive as I have only been married 3 years and still consider us in the "honeymoon stage" but I think marriage is the best! Don't get me wrong, it is HARD WORK at times. There is a lot of give and take and COMPROMISE . Plus you learn to pick your battles but in the end your spouse is your best friend. My husband is my biggest supporter in EVERYTHING I do and makes me strive to be a better person.

Answer 5

The best thing I ever did, followed by having his children. We just celebrated our 5 year anniversary and it's better than the day we got married.

Answer 6

My honest opinion of marriage has varied over time. Before marrying my husband, I mean way before, I thought that it would be a wonderful thing. I thought that I should wait to get married when I was in my later 20's to early 30's. I thought he and I would both be ready by then and I wouldn't make the same mistakes that I considered my friends to be making by getting married younger. At 29, I got married. I thought I was strong enough to get through anything and it would last forever. I was obviously wrong. People say "it takes work" and "everybody has problems" but these problems they speak of vary greatly. Some problems can be worked out. We certainly tried. We went to several counselors. I had to leave, but I would come back because I wanted to stay married. When things got physical, so to say, and it went beyond just mental abuse, I considered that if we had a child together, what may have happened to him or her. We had a final "bad episode" I'll just call it, and I just never went back home. I gave up everything I owned, and felt like a failure. Then, I didn't want to blame every guy on earth for the actions of one man. I got back together with an old flame. I mean, 10 years ago we had dated. I thought he was the good one that I was still lucky to get back in contact with. At first everything was great. I was probably on the rebound as well. We moved things along a little too fast. I still looked at him as being the same wonderful guy from years ago that I broke up with. He made up some story about how his roommate was selling his house & he had no where to go. He moved in with me. A while later, I discovered he had many problems. I thought he just needed some one who really loved him. I wanted to try and be that person. He lost his job several months after moving in. He stayed unemployed for a few months. I then found out I was a couple of months pregnant. I tried to show that I supported him and I knew he would pull through. Then, I found out all about his criminal record, his DUI's, his drugs and that he was cofortable to not work as long as I would support him and give him a place to live. I was trying to tough it out as hard as I could. Then I realized I was being used. (Duh!) He wanted to get rid of the baby. He stayed drunk or whatever more and more. His excuse was dthat he just wasn't ready for all of this! When he had been scamming me, I was "the girl of his dreams!" At 5 months pregnant, he told me he had never been in love with me. We got married just before that. We are now divorced. He still sees his son. He loves him, but doesn't support him financially. I picked a coouple of crazies. Woud I marry again? Yes, but not with the same attitude. Both of these men are attractive. That's great if a man is attractive and isn't either physically or mentally abusive, or wants you to feel like you have to support him because after all, "you got pregnant!" Then he becomes this person that you never knew he was as you are getting in deeper and deeper. I have friends who are very happily married. Some were married young, many have had "problems" because marriage is "hard work" but not total insanity. That's a reason to LEAVE! I didn't say all that went on because it's too painful to go over again. This was the tip of the iceburg. Stick it out, marriage is hard, it takes alot of work, don't give up . . . . I believe in that. When you are the only that believes all that, it doesn't matter. I have always wanted to be a wife and mother and just have a happy familty life, of course with bumps in the road expected. However, I was the one working on keeping it together & not receiving the same attempt toward me. They talk a good game. It would be easy to never believe in another person enough to marry them. I would have to say that I want a husband and a complete family of my own some day. I have my 3 yr old. I am so happy about him. I would like to some day find a good male role model for him as a stepfather. I am for marriage. I just can't look at a man in the same way that I used to. My standards and requirements would be completely different.It is not just about me anymore.I may never marry again, if I am not SURE about this person, and had a background check done where there was any violence, alcohol, or drugs leading to arrests found in the check, I am out of there!!

Answer 7

My thoughts on the "institution of marriage"...I am and yes it feels like I am instutionalized. I just wish she would have provided the rubber room so I could go have somewhere to play.

Answer 8

The leading cause of divorce in the U.S. is marriage.

Answer 9

Marriage is wonderful - especially when you have it with the right person!!!

Answer 10

Thats awesome .......!!!!

This opinion stands valid only for those who are in a really great marraige.
Which relation hasnt got any bad side,tell me ???
Even marraige has got bad side too and thats it really gets to your nerves sometimes................but at the end.I swear.its really nice.

Answer 11

I take it seriously which is why I am not married yet at 32.