my ex girlfriend came back she now has 2 kids and is still going thru her devioce do i go out wiht her or not?
2006-11-22 16:20:35 · 17 answers · asked by innocent_vic131 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well do you love her?? Unconditionally?? Can you be there for her children (step-dad)?? Are you mature enough to take on these kind of responsibilities?? Are you ready to settle down in a family situation?? I'd say if you can answer "yes" to these questions then you just might have a chance with her.. What do you feel is her motivation is for coming back to you?? Is it for love or for stability or just a place to stay for now?? You really should wait until the divorce is final, but it wouldn't hurt to have a long talk with her to see where she's at.. Good luck..
2006-11-22 17:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That my friend is tough. The choice is yours of course and don't listen to anyone else. People may tell you that she is no good for you and that she will just hurt you. But you have to follow your own heart and listen to it well. Most of the time you have a hunch or that GUT FEELING it is usually true. You wouldn't have asked unless you were not sure. Take some time and really think about where your relationship will end up with her. Think about the long future and you know the childrens father will always be in the picture and this may be bothersome. Like I mentioned before you are the only one that can make that decision and no one else GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-22 16:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Durty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no.
She's still going through a divorce? That rings my own mental alarm bells in that it seems like she'll be in a needy time in her own life, possibly insecure and all this is complicated by her having kids. She's looking for someone to turn to - and for her, it's easier and safer to turn to someone she knows (albeit, her ex) than to go out looking for a new man.
She's looking for a familiar shoulder to cry on and security. Don't fall for it. If you have feelings for her, I realise it'll be hard but give distance. If she truly wants you - she'll wait. If she's looking for a prop-up, she won't hang around...
In any case, although I've never been married, it seems to me that getting into a relationship with someone still in the process of divorce is asking for trouble. If she's not yet divorced, she's still married - so to be seeing each other will muddy the already murky waters...I'd keep clear! If for no other reason, so you don't get involved in the mess of divorce.
Tread carefully - and for now, I'd keep clear and let the situation take its own course. See what she wants over time.
But remember, no matter which of you broke it off, you're apart for a reason...and although we make mistakes - remember, you have a past.
Don't let familiarity bring you back to her...she may genuinely want you - in that case, she'll wait. But if she "needs" you - or needs a father to her kids and shoulder to lean on...you shouldn't need to be the one. She'll use you as a doormat if you let her.
Good luck...
2006-11-22 16:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally up to you. If you don't mind her having 2 kids and you love her go for it. I would suggest you wait until the divorce is final and go from there. If you're not to wild about the idea of her having kids then move on to someone who doesn't. However, if you don't mind her kids you won't have to go through the trouble of making them.
2006-11-22 16:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by muffin198486502 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great! you're not only the consolation prize but now she needs a babysitter. Guess we know how you'll be spending yer Friday and Saturday nights while she's out clubbing.
Listen buddy, say NO. save yourself some grief.
2006-11-22 16:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by brad_spits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flippantly tell Him You now no longer desire Him traveling You all of the sudden & If He Wont provide up Then basically Get human beings in touch..If that doesn't help circulate to The Police And Say that he's exhibiting Up At your place regularly occurring once you do no longer desire Him There..or do exactly no longer enable Him In..If He Forces Himself In Then arise with something..consisting of tell Him Your Gunna call The Police :)
2016-12-10 14:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by lillibridge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the reason for the breakup between u and her. yes u can go out with her, but wait to committ until u are sure things have changed with her.she is going through a divorce wait till she for sure has the divorce, as sometimes they can and do go back to their spouses, leaving the other person hurt and bitter.
2006-11-23 02:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know the answer to this question, then you are a happy meal short of a few fries.
go ahead and take the luggage. at least you will get some a=s, right.
2006-11-22 16:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you care about her? Do you love her? Do you feel good around her? Does she make you happy when she is around? - If you answered yes to these questions then I don't see any harm in going out with her. If you answer no to any of them then stay far away from this women.
Hope this helps
2006-11-22 16:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take her back... if you really love her...
we all make mistakes and life is too short to hold grudges...
god has showered you with 3 beautiful gifts...
support her through the divorce and she will support you emotionally, mentally, and physically throughout your life...
2006-11-22 16:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋