2006-11-22 16:19:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, because..........in this day and age so many people live with their boyfriend or girlfriend in a marriage type of situation, break up with that person, and then say "Oh, I have never been married." When, in reality, they may have lived with three different people, for years, months, ect. I would not judge this person just because of this. I would look at the entire picture. Maybe he married everyone he has ever slept with. Maybe, because of his marriages, he has had fewer sex partners than the average single man his age, but enough experience with a woman (his ex wife), to know what he is doing. Something to think about. You have to think outside the box sometimes. I have not been married before, and my fiancee has been married twice. However, I had lived with four different women over a period of ten years. Some of those relationships were what I would consider "marriage like". Who am I to judge?
2006-11-22 17:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Definitely, yes! My hubby is on his 3rd wife, me! He is a great husband. Caring, a great father, romantic, smart, funny and VERY considerate.
The fact that this guy has been married and divorced before doesn't necessarily reflect upon him, it could've been that the females were not the most intelligent or, it was something that happened. Maybe, they just weren't right for each other. Maybe, you guys are!
We were friends (next-door neighbors) then, we became boyfriend/girlfriend then, we lived together then we got married. We knew each other about 2 years before we got married. He actually didn't want to get married ever again and I had the impression that I didn't need someone else to make me happy. I was just happy that he was in my life. I really didn't even think about marriage.
We have 2 wonderful boys and have been married for almost 9 years. 8 years, 4 months. We still love each other.
I agree that you should be very wary, though. This is your life.
2006-11-22 16:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Colleen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends on the situation...is he married now or divorced? I wouldn't turn away someone for being divorced. I'd try to find out why he has been divorced so many times first before going on my way. Is he a cheater? My saying is "If you cheat with him he will cheat on you". You have some thinking to do and probably some work to find things out.
2006-11-22 17:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. You sound like a nice woman, you deserve a more stable person to invest your time in. You can't trust someone who has broken a promise so many times. Whatever he did to them, he will most certainly do to you. He chose his fate after the second marriage. At this point, he is just looking for fresh victims to jade. Do you want that to be you? Invest your time in something that is worth it, not some evil charmer.
2006-11-22 16:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by oh really 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on a lot of things.
1. How many times has he been married?
2. Why did he divorce?
3. Does he take any ownership of the broken relationships or is it everyone else’s fault?
4. What are your ages?
5. Are there children involved?
There are a lot of fish in the sea… why this man?
2006-11-22 16:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No more so, or less so, than a woman who has married and divorced several times; however, people do it every day.
Take it slow and see if it is worth your time. He may be the right one for you. If he's not, let him go.....that's why you take it slow. Good luck!
2006-11-22 16:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, if it were me.. I would not bother at all. That just shows that the man can not hold a steady relationship. I wouldn't spend my time with someone who is just going to divorce me later on. That is proof that he is going to do that. What you would want is a man that has a clean background and that will date you for at least 2 years before marriage.
2006-11-22 16:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by sogullablegurly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ten years ago, i married a man who had been married 3 times before me, i failed to see into his past, believed the stories i was told about the ex's, vanity and pride made me think somehow i was better than the ex's, so i was so sure he would treat me differently. well he didn't, i ended up with the exact fate as the other three before me did, where he ran away with someone else and left me stuck with the mess. so no he probroly isn't worth your time, unless u don't mind being tortured daily, and cheated on, and deceived, and used for your good heart.
2006-11-23 01:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think not. It's sort of like bed hopping... in a distant way. He's not happy with one marriage so he gets out and moves on to someone else, and then another and so on. It seems that he hasn't really thought things through before getting married before. As if he was happy enough to get married but not happy enough to try to make it work. That may not be the reason for him but in black and white, that's what it looks like.
Keep your heart for someone who will love you in times of good and especially bad.
2006-11-22 16:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats all down to you... Do you feel he is worth investing your time in... Relationships are tough & risky.. you are the only person who can answer this question.
On another note maybe he has learnt alot from his numerous divroces and now he knows what he wants. Ask him abut his past and see how you feel about his response.
Good Luck!
2006-11-22 16:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Shelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋