My husband has celebrated xmas on and off throughout our marriage. This year is my daughters last xmas at home before leaving for college next year. I want it to be special but he is in an off xmas year. I'm not sure of the best approach to take with this. Xmas has always been big in my family and this has always been a difficult time for us. Any thoughts/ideas?
2006-11-22 15:43:59 · 11 answers · asked by NICU Nurse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I’m not sure that I understand your question. If you are asking about making this a special time for your daughter before she goes off to school and your husband is not really into the holidays... just do it for her. Maybe he does not mind but does not feel like helping with it much. Think “internal verse external.” You can keep the external things low key… not too many visible decorating of the house. But you can make an extra special meal (her favorite, but not turkey and Christmas ish), put a gift on her bed, and go for a lunch outing with the spa for pedicures/manicures, and go to a candlelight late church service with just the two of you. This way its more about how you make her feel “internal” and your husband won’t be much affected because the “external” stuff will not be noticeable to him.
2006-11-22 15:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to begin with December 25 was NOT the day Christ was born on. HIstorians tell us that due to the fact that Joseph and Mary had to return to Joseph's home town to be counted in the census (as well as pay his taxes) Christ was more likely born late Spring as that was when the Census was taken. The celebration during the week of the 20th of December was ORIGINALLY a Pagan celebration of the Yule and Winter Solcitce, the Chirstians "adopted" that celebration in an attempt to force the Pagan's into converting to Christianity. I suggest you celebrate the season more and the love within the family rather than the religious aspects of it. Since it is obvious you KNEW he was like this before you got married and had your daughter I don't understand WHY you would have married him if this was such an issue with you in the first place.
2006-11-23 00:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is a believer, then I think he has the responsibility to be respectful to her this year.
I can never impress upon people how futile it is to say, "I wish I had........" when the opportunity was there and you didn't take it, particularly when it concerns family.
I hope you can convince him not to miss this opportunity to share a special family time with her.
It won't be long before he's wondering why she isn't coming home for something special.
Best of luck.
2006-11-22 23:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take hold of the reins and plan the xmas dinner. If he doesn't want to join in, let him be.
2006-11-23 04:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are celebrating your faith in the new born King, Jesus. You are only in charge of yourself. The more you "force" him to be or act a certain way, the more he will rebel.
I don't think it is unfair to say, "Honey, I don't want to pound on you but this is important to me. This is "Lisa's" last Christmas home before going to college & you know that this season is important to me, would you come with me to Church & to my family functions?"
ALL you can do is ask............and DON'T get bitter if he says NO. Lower your expectations to nothing & you won't be disappointed.
Be at peace............
2006-11-22 23:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by ThomasR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he needs to take the lead and give your daughter the best christams ever, snce it is her last. Ask him for any ideas, and where he would want to take her...
you see men like taking control of sitautions they have no clue about, but they love it. Give him the chance to do so, tel him that your daughter would love to spend the christmas together...you know what I am talking about...
Good luck, and happy thanksgiving
2006-11-22 23:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up and celebrate with your daughters. It isn't like Christmas is very religious anymore. Does he expect his birthday to be celebrated every year or do you honor somebody else every other year?
2006-11-22 23:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Dino4747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you that weak? do you need to permission to celebrate xmas? get ur act togather within the short time of your life and have fun.
2006-11-22 23:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you take her out for dinner and shopping away from your husband?
2006-11-22 23:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can always celebrate christmas without him.
2006-11-22 23:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋