I ACNT TAKE IT ANYMORE!help?

Question

my mom and dad are sepreated and i am trying everything i can to keep them together!im 19.my mom still loves him but im not sure if my dad loves her.my mom cries everynight and i can't stand it.she doesn't make much money.i hv a younger sister thats 15.and i really want to keep this marrige together!Plz help someone!

Answer 1

Baby girl, you are trying too hard to bring tigether two adulst that should have known better. Unfortunately, until these two people decide on their own what they want to do if you stay on their way you will keep gettung hurt. That is the bad news.

The good news is that you can develp a tough back and learn to talk to each of them, dont take their crap, you were not there when they started.

Tell them to put their show together, and do not be afraid to tell them that you cannot atek it anymore. They are the only parents you will ever have and whom you can talk to in this way and get away with it.

Dont carry a burden that is to hard to bear.

When you get a chance, tell it to Jesus. I will remember you in my thoughts.
You must be strong and courageous, but do not cary their world no matter how pressing ti nay be.

try to have a happy thanks giving.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your pain. There is absolutely nothing you can do to save their marriage - no matter how hard you try. Your mom is obviously depressed. The best thing you can do is to suggest she see a Doctor to discuss this. There are excellent medications that can help her through this. I know it is hard to imagine at your age - but things will get better. My husband and I divorced when my daughter was 16. It was very difficult for all of us. I went through the same thing your mom is going through - trying to keep the marriage together while crying all the time etc. I did remarry after a couple of years and my daughter loves her step brother and sister and her step father. Life does go on - no matter how hard it is to imagine it at the time. Hang in there sweetie!

Answer 3

Jessie you're a tough girl, but, you've taken on too much here. If it all falls apart you can not expect to hold it together by yourself. Be there for your mom and sister. Make sure Dad pays his due! Call and remind him if you have to. Nothing is worst than your daughter telling you that your a dead beat dad! But being a match maker in a repairing relationship is not a good business for the stress level.

Answer 4

Wow. Well good luck. My parents have almost bee through this, they fight make up, then make out lol. My little brother and I planned some ideas. Like we were going to make them a candle light dinner! Very romantic! Sit down with your dad and talk to him, than will your mom and then all together. And if your mom is making enough money, then help her look for a job that pays well. Maybe thats it, she doesn't earn enough and your father brings home the bacon? Talk to them. Earn money and take them on a little "vacation" like to the beach. Have dinner as a FAMILY! Go on pinics, more vacations, talk to your parents, and play games! Be a family, do actvities, but you should talk to your dad, help your mom look for a job, and support her! Well help your family out! Be a family! Plan ideas! Play games! Watch movies! Talk! Eat dinner as a family! Do all that and you guys will see you guys really do really love eachother (or at least your parents will!) My brother and I save our family alot and I believe that you can to! Do stuff together, take trips, visit places,get help from another family member! Celebrate Thanksgiving together! Cook the turkey all together! Play monoply, watch Scary Movie 2, go on a picnic to the park, cook dinner than eat it all together at the family table. Discuss about a book you all read recently. Share your past! Share your feelings! Everything can help! Talk to your dad and question him. But if he is with another woman or you see that he not treating your mother right, than leave it she deserves better. Cheer up your mom. Do all those activities!

Answer 5

I'm so very sorry to read your post.

The reality here is that the marriage you're trying to save isn't yours. It belongs to your mom and dad, and they have to make that decision. Without knowing the "why" for the present circumstances, it's hard to offer detailed advice OTHER THAN to ask you to go talk with a counselor. It's important for both you and your sister to be able to talk thru your feelings right now.

You're in my prayers.

Answer 6

You can't burden yourself with the challenge of keeping them together. It's not your job. I understand you want them together but they need to talk and try and work things out. All you can do is tell your mother and father what this is doing to you and the family and if they would please try and work it out. Remember - if they are to separate or divorce it is not you or your sisters fault. If you need help financially email me and I'll see what I can do to help.

Answer 7

It isn't your job to keep the marriage together. They're married to each other not to their children. You just have to let them work it out and let the cards fall where they may. You should get a job if you don't already have one to help pay the bills.

Answer 8

well the best advice i can give you is maybe just wait and let things cool down comfort your mom best as you can and im sure everything will turn out ok .i mean you can`t force two peolpe back together so just do the best you can and maybe get them to seirously talk it over.

Answer 9

im 15, my parents are going through pretty much the same thing. im sorry, but there isnt a real way to keep them together.

Answer 10

I'm 27 and went through the same thing not to long ago:( but please know that your parents need to do what they need to do, you can not take this responsibility upon yourself, they need to work this out them selves even if it leads to a divorce like my parents did.