2006-11-22 15:30:38 · 16 answers · asked by nishnoush 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can forgive but you will never forget! Trust me, I've tried.
2006-11-22 15:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by micg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one that messed up would have to do a complete turn around and do anything and everything that they could possibly do to prove to you that they will never mess up again. There is a good chance that it will still be in the back of your mind, BUT the other one can make it fade out a LOT IF they are serious about the change for the better.
2006-11-22 15:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive it will haunt u for a long time, it will be in the back of your mind forever, unless one can build new trust, and something brand new. what u had before is over, and u can't get that back, but if both parties try, and work hard at it it can work out. it will be in the back of your mind forever, and pop out when u don't want it to, whenever theres an argument, it will be hard not to throw it up to the spouse.
2006-11-22 15:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly forgave him and he's truly sorry, then you need to put it behind you and move forward.
You can't do that while looking over your shoulder at the past.
You need to find a way to rebuild the trust that was lost. If it's a question of cheating, the person who cheated needs to bend over backwards to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust that they destroyed. And the person who was cheated on needs to not use it as a club to beat the other over the head with - the wound will never heal if you keep picking at the scab.
But if you're going to make it work together, you're going to have to work at it together.
2006-11-22 16:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forgive is easier than to forget. Whether u can forget the matter depend on yourself and also how deep u are hurt. But it will definitely take some take to forget. Thus, if u want to carry on with the relationship u have to try your best to put in away.
2006-11-22 15:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ideally depends on what the spouse does to restore the trust. Over a period of time, confidence can come back, by actions not mere words
2006-11-22 16:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you let it. You have to learn to trust again and that is sometimes easier said than done. You must be strong and believe you are stronger than that. If you love someone enough l believe you can learn to forgive, it just takes a little longer to forget.
2006-11-22 16:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is critcal but trust is earned. Whoever wronged theother has to develop the trust and the other party has to be willing to see the effort of the other.
Hearts wil always be broken but each can be mended if they are willing, hurts are never permanent, we make them.
Good luck and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-22 15:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW THAT SAYING FORGIVE AND FORGET? WELL SOMETIMES THATS HAD TO DO. YOU CAN FORGIVE, BUT IT WILL TAKE A WHILE TO FORGET. AND THE TRUST WILL HAVE TO BUILD BACK UP AGAIN. IF THIS IS THE FIRST TIME OF THIS HAPPENING, THEN YOU CAN BRUSH IT OFF YOUR SHOULDERS AND TRY YOUR BEST NOT TO LET IT BOTHER YOU. IF FACT THIS IS A GOOD CHANCE TO REKINDLE THE FLAME OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP, DO SPECIAL THINGS WITH HER AND STILL LOVE HER LIKE YOU FIRST DID.
2006-11-22 15:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we can forgive our spouse but it is hard to forget.Just like a shatter glass which you try to repair and glue together it may be whole again but the cracks are still there. Like a wound the scars are there to remind you of it. i t will never be the same again. Suspicions and distrust a are always present. Only time can heal all wounds but the pain is always there to remind you of it.
2006-11-22 15:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋