What's wrong with me?-Teen?

Question

I'm 15 I get good grades but have a real low self esteem thanks to my mother . I care ALOT for my friends and I feel so protective of other people and I'm really in love with kids. I don't know a part of me is ready for kids and such. But I know that unless my mom was ok with it (not in a million years) that I wouldn't be able to care for a kid. But I dont know... i just feel ready for a baby. What's going on with me cause this can't be normal.

I work with kids a lot at day cares, when i was in 8th grade even before then, I dont have much of a life out side of band so...I dont know...:(

Answer 1

You don't really want a baby, you want unconditional love and you're not getting it from your mother. I'm sure you will be a fantastic mum in a few years time as you'll have learnt from the mistakes your mum has made, but really sweetheart, you're just too young. And believe me, a baby will not boost your self-esteem, you'll just end up paranoid that you're not doing the right thing for your baby. You get good grades so you're obviously clever - do well at school, go on to college or uni and get a fantastic job - your self-esteem will rocket. Anyway, at fifteen, nobody's self-esteem is very high, some people just hide it better than others! Give yourself a chance, go and have some fun - please don't saddle yourself with a child so young. Good luck xx

Answer 2

I think right now you're trying to fill a hole that is in your life. A baby is not a band-aid, a baby won't fix things. A baby won't raise your self-esteem, and though you love children, you aren't ready yet. It's great that you love kids and you know that you want to have kids--SOMEDAY. If you do really like kids, you can always look into something for college that would allow you to work with them too. You'll want to be able to provide for your baby and have a support system and if you already have issues with your mom and know that having a baby would make things worse right now, having a baby will make things worse. When you have a child, she'll become a grandmother. If she's not ready right now, she's going to resent you and your baby. You're already unhappy with the low self esteem from her, do you really want to bring a baby into that situation? Wait a few years, experience life a little more, find someone and fall in love, get a place of your own and then have a baby.

Answer 3

Trust me! ur definetly not ready for a kid at 15. i got pregnant at 16. My little girls father left us and thats what most teenage fathers do, they get sacred and run. its not easy taking care of a baby and speaking from experience there is hardly a social life. i would focus on school. graduate and go to university get married then think about having a child. its hard going to school and taking care of a new born by yourself. sometimes i wish i could be like all of my friend without a care in the world and can do whatever they want whenever and i know i will never have that. Don't ruin ur teenage years. Just have fun and be a kid. Growing up to fast isn't the best thing you still have the rest of your life to have a child. You could have a child a 50. that many years to go.

Answer 4

your 15 and you want a baby..
I dont know what this could be saying you have a low self esteem you might want a baby because a baby will love you no matter what. I mean im young as well and Ive imagined having a kid, but imagine it when Im older which makes me want to be older not have a kid at the young age. If you plan on doing something with your life like going to college, stick with it. You'll have all the time in the world to have a baby, as of now stick with school, because that whats most important now.

Answer 5

It may be that you are looking for the love of a child because you haven't gotten any from someone who should have loved you unconditionally. 15 is really to young to start a family, no matter how ready you feel. Try to wait until you can give a child the life you feel he or she deserves. In the meantime, find something that will help build your self esteem; maybe find a job working with kids since you love being around them so much.

Answer 6

It is normal for you to yearn for motherhood during this time in your sexual development and because of your current tribulations with your mother you feel like you need love from another living thing.

Please consider your future and the future of any child you could bring into the world before making any rash decisions. Becoming pregnant now would be a very selfish and stupid thing to do.

If you were to become pregnant think about these things:

1.Supporting the baby. How would you do it? You would need your mother to help you and adding more stress onto your mother will likely strain your already fragile relationship with her, not improve it.

2. Providing your child with nice things in life including a college education. Don't you want to give your child everything you possibly can, including a college education? Don't you want your child to have things that you do not have? How can you do that if you are barely old enough to work and don't even have a high school diploma yourself?

3. How are you going to finish school if you have a baby? How can you graduate if you miss class because you are sick all the time from morning sickness or because you just gave birth? How can you go on to college without a high school diploma? How can you get a good job without a college degree? All of these things will be affected if you have a baby and your baby will be affected if you can't do any of these things.

4. If you have a baby now, you will not be able to go out on dates with guys and have fun as a teenager (or young adult) because you will be at home having to take care of a baby. No one is going to want to give up their Friday or Saturday night to babysit, including your Mom.
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5. Single women with children have a more difficult time finding a man who will want to marry them. Why? Most men do not want a ready-made family and don't want another woman's "baggage."

Use common sense. Don't make any decisions that you aren't ready to make. Remember, when you get pregnant you will be responsible for another living thing from that point until that child turns 18! That is almost 19 years of responsibility all to yourself. Oh and don't think the father of the baby is going to stick around-he's got other chicks to be with besides one with a baby.

Answer 7

Well, You just want somebody whos gonna love you for who you are. Also, you probly want to give someone something your not getting, which sounds like attention. Believe me, your not ready to bring a little one into this world, b/c it's really hard work, and it does stress you out. Plus, finish your education and get some college in, try to get in a steady relationship, possibly even marriage before you bring a baby into this world. A baby is alot of work, i know this b/c I got pregnant at 15. I thought i was ready for a baby too, but come to find out i wasn't. It made me grow up too quickly, and I'm still missing out on my teen life, and I lost basically all of my friends b/c of it. Just think about your life and how it is going before you bring a baby into this world....

Also, it could be your maternal horomones kicking in..They usually kick in around age 15-16....Remeber Think..Think...Good Luck With Your Decision...

Answer 8

There are other ways to get attention thanfrom just having a child your not ready for.Please dont have a kid for this reason.Focus on school.I know it seems like the end of the world now.Trust me it's not.Just focus on your education.The sooner you do that the sooner you can get away from your mombuy a house,get a good job,then have a family of your own.Trust me on this one.I had a sHitty childhood and went on to do other things now I am setteled in and pregnant with my first child at 29.Wow Now thats ready.Good luck honey!!

Answer 9

Well, if you are 15 and getting good grades, you can kiss all that goodbye if you have a child. Why rush it? Your life would change...raising a child is a sacrifice and lots of hard work...you don't do the children any favours by bringing them into the world at this stage in your life. You need to grow up. Get a kitten or puppy if you want to practise responsibility.

Answer 10

Ready for a baby at 15? Talk to some girls who had babies at that age, and you will feel differently. You will lose any freedom you have, and the rest of your childhood. Go out for some sports, spend time with your friends, and keep yourself busy. Volunteer at a YWCA to see what it's really like to have responsibility for those little lives.
And I think what you are feeling is normal. All young girls think about it. Don't try to grow up too fast, enjoy your teens!!