MOMS,ok to`spank a childs butt???????

Question

This is the daddymonster,my wife give me that name ,and I grew up with spankings and I dont regret a spank of it and heres why:;because before i did anything I thought about dad and what he would do,not the police or the teacher,I wasnt afraid of any of them,only the dissapointment in my fathers eyes

Answer 1

I'm sure that worked for you, and that's great, but in today's world, it's different. Please find other options.

Answer 2

Keep those whippings coming! The BIBLE says, "spare the rod, spoil the child; beat the child for he shall not die."

People do a dis-service to their children these days, because in LIFE, no one is going to negotiate, put you in time out, etc when you are expected to respect authority! An appreciation for rules, discipline and authority starts at home; most children who have no fear of the rod of correction, have that same fearlessness with teachers, a boss and other adults in life. You can guarantee that over half the disrespectful teens you see out here now are the product of this "time out, talk to the child who has feellllings" mess!

Children are not mini adults and parents need to stop giving them so much control in how they want to be raised!!!! I mean who is rearing who here?

Lastly, your wife is underminding your role as the head of the house and father; no mother/wife should be calling her husband that type of nickname in front of the children, just because you are doing what she won't! She is making herself the "likeable" one and you the enemy. You would not have to spank or be "daddymonster' if the child were not exhibiting some type of behavior that needing correcting. Therefore, she is missing the point and taking the responsibility off the child in correcting their behavior.; if anything the child is looking at it like you are WRONG for chastising he/she.

You are right! WHEN YOU GROW UP WITH DISCIPLINE, the police, teachers etc are the least of your worries; all I would ever think is PLEASE DONT CALL MY MOM!!! Thus, I didn't get in trouble, because I KNEW SHE DID NOT PLAY : )

Answer 3

Spankings are such a big debate topic. All of our kids have been spanked, but by spanked I mean one or two and sometimes even three swats, delivered only when calm, and only after there is assurance that the kid knew why. Consequently, they were very few and far between and pretty much done by about age 4

Answer 4

HELL YA!!!

i agree, dont spank in anger, but sit the child down, tell him what he/she did, ask them why there getting spanked, and say bend over...

today's society is to "Child Abuse" BS, im only 18, and im about to have my first child, and i think if a child is gonna run to CS just for getting spanked well thats what the world has come to!!! my mom always spanked me but did it in the manner i explanned...

if your wife feels uncomfertable with the spanking situation try this::

do the same as above, but instead of one hard spank, bend child over knee and keep patting there behind, it will annoy the child soo much, that they wont want to do what they did again....

Answer 5

I spank my children if it is absoluty needed when all else has failed. I see nothing wrong with a good spanking as long as it isint done out of anger. To many people now adays are scared to dicipline their kids and thats why we have out of control kids and teens, look at all the juviniles that go to jail, all the youngsters addicted to drugs, and all these kids having babies, why because of the lack of discipline these kids and teens now adays think they can do whatever they want and not have to get any punishment because parents are to scared to give there kids a good old fashion whippin because society tells us not to or we are abusing our children, well society is not raising our kids and and look what is happening to them. I really dont care what people think of me I have two beautiful children whom I love dearly and when a spanking is needed Im gonna give it when other punishments fail.

Answer 6

There's a fine line with this topic.
I believe in giving a smack if needed.
I don't believe in always giving it though. I copped it and it did me no harm but the thing is you and your partner have different views and the child will see this and use it to their advantage as they get older.
My kids get a smack after 2 warnings. So I'm not totally against it.
If a child is being smacked in a shopping centre then I don't agree. Maybe 1 hit on the backside yes, but a floggin', No..

But then again, I copped it once in a shopping Centre for doing something bad, I never did it again lol
Find a mutual ground and do what works for you all.

Answer 7

Ok first off I was spanked as a child. I do not and never did "fear" my parents. The ways laws are now do not allow parents to disapline their child. Its a bunch of crap! I mean you dont have to beat your kid to get the point across. There IS A DIFFERENCE in spanking and child abuse! Good God people dont make it out that parents that spank beat their child senseless!!!!

Answer 8

It was around the time that Kip Kinkle was a little one when the experts started this no spanking crap, look how he ended up!?
As long as it's only with your hand and you have exhausted every other form of discipline i say it's ok. Just dont do it out of anger either.

Answer 9

okay check it out. this is how i feel anyway. i was spanked so i wouldn't do bad things. my parents had to put the "fear" in me so i would learn my lessons from back talking or for getting bad grades, or for being disrespectful, or injuring my little brother. to this day i get butterflies in my stomach if i've done something wrong and i have to admit it--i'm grown, i know i'm not gonna get a spanking NOW, but it really hurts a kid if they disappointed their parents. i really believe that spanking a kid is not only a right for parents, it's also a way to teach them right from wrong. nowadays, you can't send a kid to their room if they are bad...or even ground them, they all have cell phones, computers, telephones, and tvs in their room...it's like a kids paradise!

Answer 10

It's not disappointment, it's fear. If that is the way you want your children to look at you. Fear and respect are not the same thing and when you hit a child you are disrespecting them as a person. Respect needs to be earned and how can you expect a child to respect someone who isn't respecting them. I was spanked as a kid and vow never to disrespect my children the way my father did me, I feel it hurt our relationship. There are alot of great books out there that will help you get the results you want without the hitting.
http://www.playfulparenting.com/ Good luck

Answer 11

I spank my kids.. I am a firm believer of "Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child." I mean look at all those shows where the parents never spanked their kids and they end up out of control. Just never spank in anger. and when you do make sure the kids know why they are getting spanked.